Is it normal to get so resentful and angry when my partner goes away?

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Once in a while my partner goes away on business for a few days. Occassionally this is for a week and invloves being away over a weekend.
We have only been together 15 months, and he has always done this type of work. However I really dread him going away, and when he is gone my mind plays so many tricks that I just feel like I want to be horrible to him for going away, so I show less affection in my text messages to him, often don't take his calls all because I am so bitter and twisted and want to make him suffer because he is away and I am not. How rediculous is that and I feel like I am being such an ass, but I can't help it. I JUST HATE HIM GOING AWAY.......Arrrhhhhh!!
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Am i normal?

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  • joybird
    11 years ago | pl

    haha. When my husband goes away, I run through the house shouting 'Yes!' I love the peace and I can spread out over the bed!

    It's not good to make someone responsible for your happiness, it's a heavy burden.

    If I were him, I'd tell you to grow up and if you didn't I'd rather be on my own than have you being nasty while I'm trying to earn a crust - especially with so much unemployment!

    Just be glad he comes back to you - I wouldn't unless you stuck a smile on your face.

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  • littlelulu1999
    11 years ago | pl

    People who travel on business are not partying 24/7. They work long hours (because their employers often try to squeeze as many hours of of them as humanly possible to justify the expenses), and many are painfully lonely while on travel. You sounds selfish, and immature, and you have self-esteem issues. You need to get a life and do your own thing. You should feel confident and secure enough with yourself and your relationship to deal with your partner being away on business. Be thankful he has a job in this economy and that he's putting up with your nonsense.

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  • Chillpill
    11 years ago | pl

    I find you're reaction and feelings a bit extreme, to be honest. Is it possible that this goes back to some earlier abandonment issues?

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  • pambambam
    11 years ago | pl

    ,e too, my husband goes to personal development retreats sometimes i cant go because of work or money. i get so stress when he leaves specially because he doesnt care to leave me.I find it totally selfish.I also cant sleep at nite. I get so mad. I totally get you.

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  • deepfull
    11 years ago | pl

    i feel exactly the same way -even tho he may be gone for just three days. i als hate him going out with his friends !

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    When my spouse goes away, I worry that something bad will happen to him and I'll be a widow. I've never felt resentful or angry about him leaving, even when he goes to the tropics to go scuba diving without me. Just really worried.

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