To the trolls, this is not a bash on men, this is an experience I think a lot of women can relate to doing at least once. A lot of these guys use threatening or intimating behavior such as cat calling, taunts, tease, howling insults when you don't pay attention to them, soliciting sex, humiliate, intentionally walk in front of you, try to scare you, stare you down etc.
I used to be afraid of groups of dudes loitering on the sidewalk in front of stores. From the ages of 10-17, I remember getting cat called and flirted with(it was always "hey mami" or "hey sexy"). I can recall a few times telling them my age and to not bother me, but this did not deter them. Sometimes I'd even get followed for a few blocks. These people were always cowardly too. If I was with a guy or in a group, they wouldn't say shit. My dog Blackie would put them in their place sometimes. I stopped fearing men when I got older and met dudes outside of my town who were proof that not all guys were pervy children.
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I don't think you hate men but I think you're being paranoid. Put it this way, as a woman you're actually less likely to be attacked by a guy. So don't be so scared, man. Most of us aren't douche bags.
As a man.... You don't quite get it. It's not about being scared because I'm paranoid, it's about how these guys act towards me, treat me and speak to me. It's threatening and something someone can't not take notice of or dismiss.
Actually, as a man I do quite get it. As a man I hold a much higher risk of being attacked or murdered than you do. Women are not the only ones to be harassed or threatened by people and women aren't as likely to be attacked.
I met you with respect and you responded to me with the suggestion that being male makes me ignorant of a topic that is about being afraid of violence from others when I'm more likely to suffer it.
So I would say that yes, it does have a lot to do with how you feel mixed with the everyday world. You're less likely to suffer from violent attacks but you are more afraid than those it's more likely to happen to.
Do you? Statistically yes, males are more likely to get assaulted but at the same time they are more likely to instigate violence and put themselves into a place where violence is a very real repercussion for their actions. If you're not doing such things then your chances are significantly lower. Are you discounting all the guys who skew the stats by willfully engaging in crime and violence? Nope. I highly doubt you walk in fear even knowing the statistics or plan your day around it, because you can be relatively confident that it won't happen because you aren't a thug or a dopehead robbing houses and on top of that you are as big or bigger, stronger and faster than 75% of the population as an average size male.
As an average size non-disabled male you enjoy the privilege of being as strong or stronger than roughly 75% or more of the population. Try being on the opposite end of that.
Have you ever been the smallest guy in a room with a bunch of pro boxers? Where everyone could snap you in half in an instant if they wanted? Imagine living that every day. It's not so much that you think everyone IS going to kill you, it's just that IF anyone wants to they can easily and there's nothing you can do about it and psycho random killer rapers don't advertise so you never know who might fuck you up.
Yeah, men are statistically more likely to instigate violence and men are also more likely to be the victims of other men instigating the violence.
Chances may be lower if they're Taking part in crime but that doesn't change the original point of men doing nothing wrong being more likely to being victims. .
I'm sure everyone gets slight paranoia walking around in a dark, away from public area. However I also know that even though oban more likely to be attacked, be it by some psycho or drunk asshole than a woman is, it's also less likely to happen than it is likely. That also runs true, if not moreso, for women.
As a guy, sure, I have an advantage of being stronger but as a woman they have the privilege of more likely to have numerous men help them if being attacked, which means that they have more of a defense system, maybe not directly but still
Exactly, psycho killer rapists dont advertise, and if they're intending to kill you they're likely to have a weapon, one that defeats any measurement of strength I'd have as a man.
That said, this is why self defense weapons are a thing.
Yeah except it's not usually a random masked dude jumping out of the bushes. It's your taxi driver, your doorman, your acquaintance, your friend's boyfriend's friend. As a woman it's different. It's a different world when you have to REALLY consider such risks in every little thing you do, not just walking down a dark street. As a guy you probably never think twice about getting a taxi or a ride with bros, or going to a friend's apartment after hours. You're relatively certain you won't be raped or assaulted to begin with and if anyone tried, you could probably fight them off.
Weapons in the hand of a much weaker or inexperienced person are frequently used against that person rather than aiding their defense.
Roll eyes, are you going to start trolling me posts too? Your comments are far-fetched. Back to the normal programming... Women do you have any more comments?
And whose fault is that? The men who messed with you. You're proving my point, regardless of sex or gender groups of men can and are often times intimidating and even dangerous.
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I used to be afraid of groups of dudes loitering on the sidewalk in front of stores. From the ages of 10-17, I remember getting cat called and flirted with(it was always "hey mami" or "hey sexy"). I can recall a few times telling them my age and to not bother me, but this did not deter them. Sometimes I'd even get followed for a few blocks. These people were always cowardly too. If I was with a guy or in a group, they wouldn't say shit. My dog Blackie would put them in their place sometimes. I stopped fearing men when I got older and met dudes outside of my town who were proof that not all guys were pervy children.
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Lucky, guys around my area are still pervy. Yes, these guys are cowards who mess with women who are by themselves.
I don't think you hate men but I think you're being paranoid. Put it this way, as a woman you're actually less likely to be attacked by a guy. So don't be so scared, man. Most of us aren't douche bags.
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As a man.... You don't quite get it. It's not about being scared because I'm paranoid, it's about how these guys act towards me, treat me and speak to me. It's threatening and something someone can't not take notice of or dismiss.
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Actually, as a man I do quite get it. As a man I hold a much higher risk of being attacked or murdered than you do. Women are not the only ones to be harassed or threatened by people and women aren't as likely to be attacked.
I met you with respect and you responded to me with the suggestion that being male makes me ignorant of a topic that is about being afraid of violence from others when I'm more likely to suffer it.
So I would say that yes, it does have a lot to do with how you feel mixed with the everyday world. You're less likely to suffer from violent attacks but you are more afraid than those it's more likely to happen to.
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Do you? Statistically yes, males are more likely to get assaulted but at the same time they are more likely to instigate violence and put themselves into a place where violence is a very real repercussion for their actions. If you're not doing such things then your chances are significantly lower. Are you discounting all the guys who skew the stats by willfully engaging in crime and violence? Nope. I highly doubt you walk in fear even knowing the statistics or plan your day around it, because you can be relatively confident that it won't happen because you aren't a thug or a dopehead robbing houses and on top of that you are as big or bigger, stronger and faster than 75% of the population as an average size male.
As an average size non-disabled male you enjoy the privilege of being as strong or stronger than roughly 75% or more of the population. Try being on the opposite end of that.
Have you ever been the smallest guy in a room with a bunch of pro boxers? Where everyone could snap you in half in an instant if they wanted? Imagine living that every day. It's not so much that you think everyone IS going to kill you, it's just that IF anyone wants to they can easily and there's nothing you can do about it and psycho random killer rapers don't advertise so you never know who might fuck you up.
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Yeah, men are statistically more likely to instigate violence and men are also more likely to be the victims of other men instigating the violence.
Chances may be lower if they're Taking part in crime but that doesn't change the original point of men doing nothing wrong being more likely to being victims. .
I'm sure everyone gets slight paranoia walking around in a dark, away from public area. However I also know that even though oban more likely to be attacked, be it by some psycho or drunk asshole than a woman is, it's also less likely to happen than it is likely. That also runs true, if not moreso, for women.
As a guy, sure, I have an advantage of being stronger but as a woman they have the privilege of more likely to have numerous men help them if being attacked, which means that they have more of a defense system, maybe not directly but still
Exactly, psycho killer rapists dont advertise, and if they're intending to kill you they're likely to have a weapon, one that defeats any measurement of strength I'd have as a man.
That said, this is why self defense weapons are a thing.
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Yeah except it's not usually a random masked dude jumping out of the bushes. It's your taxi driver, your doorman, your acquaintance, your friend's boyfriend's friend. As a woman it's different. It's a different world when you have to REALLY consider such risks in every little thing you do, not just walking down a dark street. As a guy you probably never think twice about getting a taxi or a ride with bros, or going to a friend's apartment after hours. You're relatively certain you won't be raped or assaulted to begin with and if anyone tried, you could probably fight them off.
Weapons in the hand of a much weaker or inexperienced person are frequently used against that person rather than aiding their defense.
Roll eyes, are you going to start trolling me posts too? Your comments are far-fetched. Back to the normal programming... Women do you have any more comments?
I agree I've had more problems with groups of men than my girlfriends ever have
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And whose fault is that? The men who messed with you. You're proving my point, regardless of sex or gender groups of men can and are often times intimidating and even dangerous.
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I'm trying to prove your point in my weird bass backwards way