My reply is not about me changing your views as I have no right to equally though you have no right to change my views.
You do make some good points and I do understand that there are certain places that you just would not take children to. I am not saying I would take my daughter to an underage bar and get absolutly hammered. I have no problem with getting my mum to look after my little girl while I go out with friends because you are right we are individuals and love my daughter as I do I need that break as she sometimes needs that break from me. However all I meant was if my child was not welcome at an event where children could go to say a wedding for eg. I am afraid if I have to choose between my friend's wedding or my child then there is no contest! I believe that if we don't allow children to have some interaction in the adult world how will they learn how to socialise with adults. (that's just my beliefs though) I know children can get biosterous and playful but that's what kids do. They're full of energy and wonder and fun.
I do not accept however your comment about me being selfish. Well perhaps I am on a personal level. I mean I have climbed all over people to get to where I am and will keep on climbing over people to get even further and I feel no guilt at all. However. I am a good mum. No I am not a perfect mum but who is. As a mum have made my errors but you show me a mum who hasn't. Also my daughter is very used to being seperated from me as i went back to work when she was a few months old. I had a choice I could have stayed home but I chose not and I some people may even call that selfish as some believe a mother should not work and be there all the time for her child. I think it should be a personal choice though. x
"! I believe that if we don't allow children to have some interaction in the adult world how will they learn how to socialise with adults." This is VERY true. But, you still don't get it, do you? This is HER FRIEND'S big day. It's not her responsibility to make sure her friend's child is getting socialization experience.
Thankyou for your reply. While yes you're right it is not her friends responsibility to make sure that her friends baby gets social interaction. However by the same token your loyalty always lies with your children.
It's not that I "don't get it". It's just that my views still stand. x
I will not disagree with that one bit. When you are a parent, your first priority has to be your child. I still believe she is being entitled to keep insisting that her child be included. For all we know, there could be other people who want to bring THEIR kids to the wedding, too. It wouldn't be fair to invite one person's kid without inviting the others. So, in the end, it's the mother's responsibility to find other options: find a family member to babysit for the night if she REALLY wants to go, or stay home with her baby. Both are valid options, unless she has no family members or something.
I know 1 thing I would not lower myself to keep asking if I could bring my baby. My attitude would be "Stick your wedding invitation , where the sun doesn't shine. xx
If all you want is a forum to express your views, then you're in the wrong place. You should create a blog without a comment section and then you can say whatever you like and no one can disagree with you. On this site, people comment and other people respond. That's what this site is all about.
Where have I ever said that I do not like people disagreeing with me. In actual fact sometimes it's healthy to disagree as it helps to see things from other people sides. As I have prevoisly stated I would never try and change anyone's views as I would never allow anyone to change my views. My user name was obvouisly chosen because I believe in what I say.
Is it normal to get angry because my baby can't go to a wedding?
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My reply is not about me changing your views as I have no right to equally though you have no right to change my views.
You do make some good points and I do understand that there are certain places that you just would not take children to. I am not saying I would take my daughter to an underage bar and get absolutly hammered. I have no problem with getting my mum to look after my little girl while I go out with friends because you are right we are individuals and love my daughter as I do I need that break as she sometimes needs that break from me. However all I meant was if my child was not welcome at an event where children could go to say a wedding for eg. I am afraid if I have to choose between my friend's wedding or my child then there is no contest! I believe that if we don't allow children to have some interaction in the adult world how will they learn how to socialise with adults. (that's just my beliefs though) I know children can get biosterous and playful but that's what kids do. They're full of energy and wonder and fun.
I do not accept however your comment about me being selfish. Well perhaps I am on a personal level. I mean I have climbed all over people to get to where I am and will keep on climbing over people to get even further and I feel no guilt at all. However. I am a good mum. No I am not a perfect mum but who is. As a mum have made my errors but you show me a mum who hasn't. Also my daughter is very used to being seperated from me as i went back to work when she was a few months old. I had a choice I could have stayed home but I chose not and I some people may even call that selfish as some believe a mother should not work and be there all the time for her child. I think it should be a personal choice though. x
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"! I believe that if we don't allow children to have some interaction in the adult world how will they learn how to socialise with adults." This is VERY true. But, you still don't get it, do you? This is HER FRIEND'S big day. It's not her responsibility to make sure her friend's child is getting socialization experience.
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Thankyou for your reply. While yes you're right it is not her friends responsibility to make sure that her friends baby gets social interaction. However by the same token your loyalty always lies with your children.
It's not that I "don't get it". It's just that my views still stand. x
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I will not disagree with that one bit. When you are a parent, your first priority has to be your child. I still believe she is being entitled to keep insisting that her child be included. For all we know, there could be other people who want to bring THEIR kids to the wedding, too. It wouldn't be fair to invite one person's kid without inviting the others. So, in the end, it's the mother's responsibility to find other options: find a family member to babysit for the night if she REALLY wants to go, or stay home with her baby. Both are valid options, unless she has no family members or something.
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I want to be your friend.
Thank you for your reply.
I know 1 thing I would not lower myself to keep asking if I could bring my baby. My attitude would be "Stick your wedding invitation , where the sun doesn't shine. xx
If all you want is a forum to express your views, then you're in the wrong place. You should create a blog without a comment section and then you can say whatever you like and no one can disagree with you. On this site, people comment and other people respond. That's what this site is all about.
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Where have I ever said that I do not like people disagreeing with me. In actual fact sometimes it's healthy to disagree as it helps to see things from other people sides. As I have prevoisly stated I would never try and change anyone's views as I would never allow anyone to change my views. My user name was obvouisly chosen because I believe in what I say.