I have to jump in here again. I know these posts are all about opinions and thoughts but I can not believe how many people have crticsised (sorry terrible speller) this mother. She feels her baby is being excluded and yes I know the bride will have her reasons but as a mum she is bound and allowed to feel some upset. xx
Then she should do as you say you would and decline the offer.
Not every event is baby friendly. A real friend would understand how a baby could spoil the ceremony and either decline the offer to attend the wedding or arrange to have a sitter for that day. It's not a personal attack on the mother or child.
This has absolutely nothing to do with criticizing her or bashing her baby. The fact of the matter is that she is acting quite entitled. Like there aren't other parents wanting to bring their kids to the wedding, as well. It would be one thing if she asked a couple of times, but she's continuing to insist that her baby be included.
Nobody is saying she doesn't have a right to be angry. She is allowed to feel any way she wants. Heck, if I was attached to a kid of mine, I'd be wanting to take it everywhere. But I wouldn't keep being an entitled person if I was told my kid couldn't come somewhere. I might ask a couple of times, but, in the end, "no means no", and I'd either leave my kid with a trusted family member, or I'd skip the wedding and watch the video footage later on. But if she continues to ask and insist she bring her baby, I can guarantee you that her friend's no longer going to even give her the option.
Yeah some of this is harsh I agree. And it is her best friend's wedding so she's torn. Too bad they couldn't compromise - like just go to the service and skip reception ....
My problem with this mother is her selfishness and sense of entitlement. A wedding is all about the bride and this woman is trying to make it all about her. What if the baby starts crying when the couple is exchanging their vows and drowns out what is being said? This would not only ruin the "moment," it would also ruin the wedding video. This woman is thinking only of herself and what SHE wants. If this woman is the bride's best friend, I wouldn't want to encounter one of her enemies!
I guess you're saying that for this bride a wedding that is an all-quiet-on-the-set kodak production is more important than communing with friends and family (with children). Bridezilla is the name of the game these days but I don't think it makes those whose feelings she's trampled selfish.
Why are there people on here bashing the bride for not allowing kids to HER OWN WEDDING? It's one. night. She's not asking the lady to neglect her kid for a week. People want their wedding to be perfect. It's a normal thing. It's NOT to much to ask that a wedding be baby-free.
This is one reason I hate modern weddings. They are commercial photo ops for selfish queen-of-the-day women. They are not about connections with family, friends and community.
No. The mother of a new-born is not acting "entitled" for simple asking to bring her child to - of all things - her best friend's wedding. The bride is entitled to say no but having done so, shows little regard for friendship or children.
Look. Some people don't like children, believe it or not. We tolerate them, of course, but you don't have the right to bash this woman for choosing to not invite children to HER MOTHERFUCKING WEDDING. Seriously, I don't know why people just don't get it.
And, yes. I DO think she's acting entitled. It's not entitlement to ask once or twice, or shit, even 3 times is ok. It IS entitled behaviour to continue to insist that your child be invited, even though her friend has (hopefully) politely told her that she doesn't want the child to be included. Should she let someone bring their pet if they keep insisting? Should she allow a child molesting relative to attend if they kept insisting? After all, this IS all about connections with friends and family, right?
Is it normal to get angry because my baby can't go to a wedding?
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I have to jump in here again. I know these posts are all about opinions and thoughts but I can not believe how many people have crticsised (sorry terrible speller) this mother. She feels her baby is being excluded and yes I know the bride will have her reasons but as a mum she is bound and allowed to feel some upset. xx
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Then she should do as you say you would and decline the offer.
Not every event is baby friendly. A real friend would understand how a baby could spoil the ceremony and either decline the offer to attend the wedding or arrange to have a sitter for that day. It's not a personal attack on the mother or child.
This has absolutely nothing to do with criticizing her or bashing her baby. The fact of the matter is that she is acting quite entitled. Like there aren't other parents wanting to bring their kids to the wedding, as well. It would be one thing if she asked a couple of times, but she's continuing to insist that her baby be included.
Nobody is saying she doesn't have a right to be angry. She is allowed to feel any way she wants. Heck, if I was attached to a kid of mine, I'd be wanting to take it everywhere. But I wouldn't keep being an entitled person if I was told my kid couldn't come somewhere. I might ask a couple of times, but, in the end, "no means no", and I'd either leave my kid with a trusted family member, or I'd skip the wedding and watch the video footage later on. But if she continues to ask and insist she bring her baby, I can guarantee you that her friend's no longer going to even give her the option.
Yeah some of this is harsh I agree. And it is her best friend's wedding so she's torn. Too bad they couldn't compromise - like just go to the service and skip reception ....
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My problem with this mother is her selfishness and sense of entitlement. A wedding is all about the bride and this woman is trying to make it all about her. What if the baby starts crying when the couple is exchanging their vows and drowns out what is being said? This would not only ruin the "moment," it would also ruin the wedding video. This woman is thinking only of herself and what SHE wants. If this woman is the bride's best friend, I wouldn't want to encounter one of her enemies!
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I guess you're saying that for this bride a wedding that is an all-quiet-on-the-set kodak production is more important than communing with friends and family (with children). Bridezilla is the name of the game these days but I don't think it makes those whose feelings she's trampled selfish.
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Why are there people on here bashing the bride for not allowing kids to HER OWN WEDDING? It's one. night. She's not asking the lady to neglect her kid for a week. People want their wedding to be perfect. It's a normal thing. It's NOT to much to ask that a wedding be baby-free.
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This is one reason I hate modern weddings. They are commercial photo ops for selfish queen-of-the-day women. They are not about connections with family, friends and community.
No. The mother of a new-born is not acting "entitled" for simple asking to bring her child to - of all things - her best friend's wedding. The bride is entitled to say no but having done so, shows little regard for friendship or children.
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Look. Some people don't like children, believe it or not. We tolerate them, of course, but you don't have the right to bash this woman for choosing to not invite children to HER MOTHERFUCKING WEDDING. Seriously, I don't know why people just don't get it.
I hate screaming babies and if i decide to get married to one lucky fucker i wont allow children either.
And, yes. I DO think she's acting entitled. It's not entitlement to ask once or twice, or shit, even 3 times is ok. It IS entitled behaviour to continue to insist that your child be invited, even though her friend has (hopefully) politely told her that she doesn't want the child to be included. Should she let someone bring their pet if they keep insisting? Should she allow a child molesting relative to attend if they kept insisting? After all, this IS all about connections with friends and family, right?