"No, I am not responsible for him disrespecting my wishes when I was upfront about my terms."
As I said in my previous, I think that what he did was completely wrong.
But the way you phrase that statement sounds like you might believe it's reasonable for you to expect everyone in the world to always respect your wishes. That would be silly to the point of delusional.
He is responsible for his actions; you are responsible for your actions. If your actions include refusing to take reasonable precautions to ensure that you won't get pregnant and having sex with guys you don't know well, then you will partly own the consequences of that. You'll definitely be the person who has to decide what to do about any pregnancy. If you decided to have the kid, you'd be the primary person who has to deal with her life being completely turned upside down, and you'd be the one who has to deal with her life revolving around the kid for at least the next eighteen years.
You appear to have lucked out this time - although you need to be aware that the results of pregnancy tests can't be relied on if taken before a few weeks have passed since the sex. From the way you worded your OP, it sounds like you took the test much more quickly than that after the unpleasant evening. If that's correct, then you'd be wise to test again after the date when your next period is due.
I took reasonable precautions. He was the one who decided to not use any protection what so ever against my wishes. If the condom broke or something well that happened. I would proceed from that point. However, purposely coming in a person and saying they are your hostage until they become inpragnated is not MY FUALT. That is him being a dipshit. Also there is no reason to WAIT to take a pregnancy test. Since at that point its already too late and you would have to proceed with having the baby. Also morning after pill is to be taken 1-2 days after. NOT A MONTH LATER YOU IDIOT. So saying wait 3 weeks is too late. Which is said on the medical website I looked up as well. WAITING for these type of things is not intelligent at all.
Where did I say anything about the morning-after pill?
If you can get access to that where you live and using of it isn't in conflict with your ethical beliefs, you obviously should have taken it as soon as you could.
As far as pregnancy testers are concerned, they aren't so sensitive that they can detect the hormone they rely on to indicate pregnancy within a couple of days of conception. Also, sperm can remain viable in the uterus for up to five days after ejaculation, so it's possible for conception to be delayed.
Your definition of "reasonable precautions" clearly isn't the same as mine. It seems to me your attitude is similar to that of someone who decides to walk through the roughest part of town on their own late at night because they believe nobody has the right to assault and rob them, and thinks that the only "reasonable precaution" they need to take is keeping their phone and money out of sight in their pocket. When someone stabs and robs them even though they tell the dipshit they have no right to do that, they're outraged, and believe they bear no responsibility for what happened, even though they deliberately put themselves in a risky situation.
So you are saying that people should be robbed? That is a very predatory mindset. Especially considering some are actually very poor and are often forced into these type of situations or enviorments. So you are basically saying fuck all poor people and familys for not making enough to live in a rich city. Like your privileged ass right?
Have you ever considered if you might be on the autistic spectrum?
It's possible that you just have poor reading comprehension skills, such limited experience of life that you have an unrealistic, idealised vision of human nature, and you always interpret what others say negatively once they say something you find challenging. But the way you've responded to my replies here and how you described the situation that prompted you to ask your original question makes me wonder if you have serious difficulties understanding the thoughts and feelings of others.
Have you ever considered the simple fact of being poor is not a reason to be attacked and only a predator would say so? You said if someone walks out at night they deserve to be robbed. Ideally this would not happen but a number of circumstances might make this the case. Consider a person is poor, can not afford a car, works a very late shift and their vehicle breaks down. You are saying 100percent that person deserves to be attacked. Are you really that blind to how real life works? I mean I did not think privilege really made people this FUCKING stupid.
IIN to force pregnancy on a girl and is it illegal
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"No, I am not responsible for him disrespecting my wishes when I was upfront about my terms."
As I said in my previous, I think that what he did was completely wrong.
But the way you phrase that statement sounds like you might believe it's reasonable for you to expect everyone in the world to always respect your wishes. That would be silly to the point of delusional.
He is responsible for his actions; you are responsible for your actions. If your actions include refusing to take reasonable precautions to ensure that you won't get pregnant and having sex with guys you don't know well, then you will partly own the consequences of that. You'll definitely be the person who has to decide what to do about any pregnancy. If you decided to have the kid, you'd be the primary person who has to deal with her life being completely turned upside down, and you'd be the one who has to deal with her life revolving around the kid for at least the next eighteen years.
You appear to have lucked out this time - although you need to be aware that the results of pregnancy tests can't be relied on if taken before a few weeks have passed since the sex. From the way you worded your OP, it sounds like you took the test much more quickly than that after the unpleasant evening. If that's correct, then you'd be wise to test again after the date when your next period is due.
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I took reasonable precautions. He was the one who decided to not use any protection what so ever against my wishes. If the condom broke or something well that happened. I would proceed from that point. However, purposely coming in a person and saying they are your hostage until they become inpragnated is not MY FUALT. That is him being a dipshit. Also there is no reason to WAIT to take a pregnancy test. Since at that point its already too late and you would have to proceed with having the baby. Also morning after pill is to be taken 1-2 days after. NOT A MONTH LATER YOU IDIOT. So saying wait 3 weeks is too late. Which is said on the medical website I looked up as well. WAITING for these type of things is not intelligent at all.
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Where did I say anything about the morning-after pill?
If you can get access to that where you live and using of it isn't in conflict with your ethical beliefs, you obviously should have taken it as soon as you could.
As far as pregnancy testers are concerned, they aren't so sensitive that they can detect the hormone they rely on to indicate pregnancy within a couple of days of conception. Also, sperm can remain viable in the uterus for up to five days after ejaculation, so it's possible for conception to be delayed.
Your definition of "reasonable precautions" clearly isn't the same as mine. It seems to me your attitude is similar to that of someone who decides to walk through the roughest part of town on their own late at night because they believe nobody has the right to assault and rob them, and thinks that the only "reasonable precaution" they need to take is keeping their phone and money out of sight in their pocket. When someone stabs and robs them even though they tell the dipshit they have no right to do that, they're outraged, and believe they bear no responsibility for what happened, even though they deliberately put themselves in a risky situation.
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So you are saying that people should be robbed? That is a very predatory mindset. Especially considering some are actually very poor and are often forced into these type of situations or enviorments. So you are basically saying fuck all poor people and familys for not making enough to live in a rich city. Like your privileged ass right?
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Have you ever considered the simple fact of being poor is not a reason to be attacked and only a predator would say so? You said if someone walks out at night they deserve to be robbed. Ideally this would not happen but a number of circumstances might make this the case. Consider a person is poor, can not afford a car, works a very late shift and their vehicle breaks down. You are saying 100percent that person deserves to be attacked. Are you really that blind to how real life works? I mean I did not think privilege really made people this FUCKING stupid.
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