Leading people on is a very immoral act. Some people are emotionally weak and may have severe problems going on in their life, and maybe you are their sunshine that brightens things up. Maybe for that guy, talking to you makes him have a better day, or even a better week. When you one day turn around and decide you don't like him anymore, he is going to be severely depressed and will start to do poorly in school and that could cost him a whole semesters worth of money or it could even jeopardize his future. You may think I am exaggerating right now but this is a very possible scenario. So think about this persons feelings before you start leading him on for your own selfish intentions.!
I do agree with you that it's despicable behavior. I see it all the time with how some of my other girl friends like to toy with guys and feel sorry for the guys (the nice ones) knowing that he's not going anywhere with them.
Now that i have "the power", i feel how tempting it is to use it but i'm also aware of how selfish and harmful it can be (as i have been on other side too). I really hate myself for even thinking this way about using a person for my own gratification, because i don't think i'm that kind of person.
However, i wish i could have some regular guy friends (not sex or romantic interest types) because sometimes guys are just more fun to hang out with (and less gossipy then the girls i know). However the ones with who it clicks (on a friendship level) in the end always want a relationship... Or else they're not interested in remaining platonic. it's annoying.
I'm sure you can find a platonic friendship with a guy, if he is homosexual. Otherwise, if you befriend a guy, he's bound to start liking you down the line. Worst part is, if he doesn't like you, you'll probably start to like him! And when you find out he doesn't feel the same way and is playing you, you'll get all upset and complain about how guys are all jerks and just want women for one thing and one thing only. That's just the game of love which, unfortunately, too many people waste their time playing. Maybe one day you'll grow out of it. As a guy, I've grown out of that stupid game and avoid girls who behave like you and your friends like the plague. Why? Because I don't feel like getting my heart broken for the millionth time, so it's easier to just tell myself "agh this girl is just one of those..." and move on with my lonely life. Lol.
Is it normal to flirt with guys i don't really like?
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Leading people on is a very immoral act. Some people are emotionally weak and may have severe problems going on in their life, and maybe you are their sunshine that brightens things up. Maybe for that guy, talking to you makes him have a better day, or even a better week. When you one day turn around and decide you don't like him anymore, he is going to be severely depressed and will start to do poorly in school and that could cost him a whole semesters worth of money or it could even jeopardize his future. You may think I am exaggerating right now but this is a very possible scenario. So think about this persons feelings before you start leading him on for your own selfish intentions.!
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I do agree with you that it's despicable behavior. I see it all the time with how some of my other girl friends like to toy with guys and feel sorry for the guys (the nice ones) knowing that he's not going anywhere with them.
Now that i have "the power", i feel how tempting it is to use it but i'm also aware of how selfish and harmful it can be (as i have been on other side too). I really hate myself for even thinking this way about using a person for my own gratification, because i don't think i'm that kind of person.
However, i wish i could have some regular guy friends (not sex or romantic interest types) because sometimes guys are just more fun to hang out with (and less gossipy then the girls i know). However the ones with who it clicks (on a friendship level) in the end always want a relationship... Or else they're not interested in remaining platonic. it's annoying.
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I'm sure you can find a platonic friendship with a guy, if he is homosexual. Otherwise, if you befriend a guy, he's bound to start liking you down the line. Worst part is, if he doesn't like you, you'll probably start to like him! And when you find out he doesn't feel the same way and is playing you, you'll get all upset and complain about how guys are all jerks and just want women for one thing and one thing only. That's just the game of love which, unfortunately, too many people waste their time playing. Maybe one day you'll grow out of it. As a guy, I've grown out of that stupid game and avoid girls who behave like you and your friends like the plague. Why? Because I don't feel like getting my heart broken for the millionth time, so it's easier to just tell myself "agh this girl is just one of those..." and move on with my lonely life. Lol.