It's good to remember someone in a positive light. However in this case, I think it would really serve you better to recall the qualities about her that were completely incompatable with yours and what made you not feel as great. The reason being is because you are still not over her, thinking about all the ways she is great is really only going to fuse your feelings forward more toward caring about it and not allowing yourself to grow from the experience. If you take the time to you realize the ways in which she didn't result in measuring up to what you deserve, you will get her off that pedistole in your mind, and see her for who she really is. Once you have that done, she will become equal to you or maybe a person like everyone else, someone with faults that you don't idealize. Eventually you will see this behavoir and forgive her. Forgive her in a, I don't care anymore because I deserve better and no longer wish to attract people like you, kind-of-way. But have no ill feelings towards her because she is just average and we all amke mistakes.
Is it normal to find that hating an ex hurts more than missing her?
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It's good to remember someone in a positive light. However in this case, I think it would really serve you better to recall the qualities about her that were completely incompatable with yours and what made you not feel as great. The reason being is because you are still not over her, thinking about all the ways she is great is really only going to fuse your feelings forward more toward caring about it and not allowing yourself to grow from the experience. If you take the time to you realize the ways in which she didn't result in measuring up to what you deserve, you will get her off that pedistole in your mind, and see her for who she really is. Once you have that done, she will become equal to you or maybe a person like everyone else, someone with faults that you don't idealize. Eventually you will see this behavoir and forgive her. Forgive her in a, I don't care anymore because I deserve better and no longer wish to attract people like you, kind-of-way. But have no ill feelings towards her because she is just average and we all amke mistakes.