The extra info you said here reminds me of a friend I used to have. I always dreaded visiting them and started making excuses not to see them (the excuses were the truth but I was using it to my advantage at the time). By always having an excuse me and that friend just sort of drifted apart. I felt bad for it cause there was nothing wrong with him, I just found his company a bit boring.
The thing is, is that whenever I would get over my dread and go visit him, I'd have a much better time than I thought.
So... Speaking for myself I think I would let them know of small faults in the way they act. I wouldn't be a jerk about it but if she's repeatedly asking me the same questions on repeat or something, I'd let her know. I wouldn't cut off contact but ease out of it. Make myself busier, and have some REAL reason to bump her off if I could. Try to actually be busy so I'm not lying to her.
Truthfully, the way you've described her makes her sound like a very nice lady, but problematic. She doesn't sound like she deserves to be hurt so the best course of action (again, just in my experience) would be to ease slowly out of this.
IIN to find it tough being around a friend who REALLY likes you?
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The extra info you said here reminds me of a friend I used to have. I always dreaded visiting them and started making excuses not to see them (the excuses were the truth but I was using it to my advantage at the time). By always having an excuse me and that friend just sort of drifted apart. I felt bad for it cause there was nothing wrong with him, I just found his company a bit boring.
The thing is, is that whenever I would get over my dread and go visit him, I'd have a much better time than I thought.
So... Speaking for myself I think I would let them know of small faults in the way they act. I wouldn't be a jerk about it but if she's repeatedly asking me the same questions on repeat or something, I'd let her know. I wouldn't cut off contact but ease out of it. Make myself busier, and have some REAL reason to bump her off if I could. Try to actually be busy so I'm not lying to her.
Truthfully, the way you've described her makes her sound like a very nice lady, but problematic. She doesn't sound like she deserves to be hurt so the best course of action (again, just in my experience) would be to ease slowly out of this.