Is it normal to find intercourse unexciting?

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I have a serious sexual problem which is getting on my nerves and I'm about to seek some proffesional help for it. But first, I want to read some comments of fellow internet travellers on the subject.
It's about the eternal mystery of the female orgasm during intercourse. I'm a girl just turned 20, been sexually active since 15 (active with a partner since 17) and had a boyfriend for a year. The fire of love is burning hot and we have had sex since we met. He is the only guy that have made me orgasm (from a selection of 11), which has only been obtained by oral sex. But intercourse just isn't doing it for me! Iv'e never had a problem getting wet and exited with a guy, but it basically stops there. I've never felt the passion just before an orgasm is built up.
It has even come to the point where I'm questioning my own sexuality, since Iv'e been sure of my bisexuality for many years (without real girl-on-girl experience). I never find myself turned on by having a dick inside me, it just makes sex feel mechanical. What exites me is the way things feel physically, which basically keeps my eyes closed. Overall, I'm a very sexual person with no problem getting off on my own.
So let's hear it from you who have had similar experience, and especially if you have overcome a problem similar with mine.

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  • StarTeddy
    10 years ago

    It's normal in that most women don't actually orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone, they need some clitoral stimulation to get there. Some women (like me) can, but we're the exception rather than the rule. I think the previous commenter has some good ideas about how to make intercourse more interesting for you.

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  • ObsessedWithReedus
    10 years ago

    I can only get off by clit stimulation. Having something go in and out down there doesn't do it, but if it's happening at the same time as clit stimulation it makes my orgasm more intense.

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  • quentari
    10 years ago

    You might have situational anorgasmia (you are unable to achieve orgasm except through very specific sexual acts/positions etc) or possibly you have a highly sensitive clit and a less sensitive inner-vagina. For the most part vaginal orgasm's are mostly a myth anyway, very few women can actually achieve orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone and most need something stimulating their clitoris/labia to orgasm. Have you tried holding a small vibrator to your clit during sex or using a vibrating dick ring? I have the same thing and we usually use a vibrator in bed now so we can both finish together.

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    • monopoly
      10 years ago

      Thanks for a good answer, will try that vibrator trick. Off to ebay for a smaller model then!

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      • quentari
        10 years ago

        Let us know if it works!

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