1. There's a difference between a confident man and needlessly violent man. Women are attracted to confidence, strength, bravery, and more. Though it's hard to differentiate between the two when we're young and inexperience, because violence is flashy and in our face, while confidence is more subtle. Some women figure it out, some don't.
2. Violent men have false confidence and very insecure; they only feel powerful when abusing the weak, especially with someone who they can control, like a spouse or significant other.
3. Pretending to be tough by hurting others may have worked flawlessly centuries go, where the only purpose in life was to hunt, gather, and reproduce; we've grown passed that by a hell of a lot. Thanks to psychology and more, we can identify and understand that violence just leads to more violence, no one is safe.
4. Humans have free will. We change our minds often, whether it's instinct or not, especially if it hurts us. Pain isn't the best teacher, but it gets the job done; so yeah, I'm sure if she does "instinctively" choose to date a violent man so she can fulfill that burning desire to fertilize her egg(s), he will hit her, and she will learn her lesson.... or not.
5. There are different forms of abuse, not just physical. She doesn't have to be, "knocked around," to feel pain. Also, yeah I get it, you think I was beaten by an ex boyfriend or something, but I wasn't; sadly, I know women who have been.
6. Lastly, telling a girl to date an abusive guy for rough sex is stupid; really stupid. A man doesn't need to be the kind of asswipe the OP wants to date to have kinky sex, just find a sensible guy who likes it rough.
If you made it this far without immediately stopping to wrote an angry reply or closing out this topic, congrats. Just be happy I'm actually trying to warn this girl.
Is it normal to find dangerous/violent men highly attractive?
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1. There's a difference between a confident man and needlessly violent man. Women are attracted to confidence, strength, bravery, and more. Though it's hard to differentiate between the two when we're young and inexperience, because violence is flashy and in our face, while confidence is more subtle. Some women figure it out, some don't.
2. Violent men have false confidence and very insecure; they only feel powerful when abusing the weak, especially with someone who they can control, like a spouse or significant other.
3. Pretending to be tough by hurting others may have worked flawlessly centuries go, where the only purpose in life was to hunt, gather, and reproduce; we've grown passed that by a hell of a lot. Thanks to psychology and more, we can identify and understand that violence just leads to more violence, no one is safe.
4. Humans have free will. We change our minds often, whether it's instinct or not, especially if it hurts us. Pain isn't the best teacher, but it gets the job done; so yeah, I'm sure if she does "instinctively" choose to date a violent man so she can fulfill that burning desire to fertilize her egg(s), he will hit her, and she will learn her lesson.... or not.
5. There are different forms of abuse, not just physical. She doesn't have to be, "knocked around," to feel pain. Also, yeah I get it, you think I was beaten by an ex boyfriend or something, but I wasn't; sadly, I know women who have been.
6. Lastly, telling a girl to date an abusive guy for rough sex is stupid; really stupid. A man doesn't need to be the kind of asswipe the OP wants to date to have kinky sex, just find a sensible guy who likes it rough.
If you made it this far without immediately stopping to wrote an angry reply or closing out this topic, congrats. Just be happy I'm actually trying to warn this girl.