Oh, GOD, yes! More stay-at-home parents feel that way than you would believe, especially when dealing with kids as young as yours. You need some space and time in which to be you -- not Mommy, not wife, not daughter, just yourself -- to regain your equilibrium.
No matter how much you love your family, you were an individual long before you were a part of it. When you have a lot of demands on your time that eat away at that sense of self, of course you feel like you're going a little nuts. You aren't; you've just lost touch with yourself. See if you can get your parents or his to take the kids for a night or two.
I don't have kids, but plenty of my friends do. I'm older and so are they, but they went through really rough times during some of the pre-school years. They got vastly happier when they had some time to themselves during the day. This will get easier, I think, when all four of your kids are in school and you have a few hours to be you and not Mommy or wife/girlfriend all the time.
is it normal to feel unhappy about being a stay at home parent?
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Oh, GOD, yes! More stay-at-home parents feel that way than you would believe, especially when dealing with kids as young as yours. You need some space and time in which to be you -- not Mommy, not wife, not daughter, just yourself -- to regain your equilibrium.
No matter how much you love your family, you were an individual long before you were a part of it. When you have a lot of demands on your time that eat away at that sense of self, of course you feel like you're going a little nuts. You aren't; you've just lost touch with yourself. See if you can get your parents or his to take the kids for a night or two.
I don't have kids, but plenty of my friends do. I'm older and so are they, but they went through really rough times during some of the pre-school years. They got vastly happier when they had some time to themselves during the day. This will get easier, I think, when all four of your kids are in school and you have a few hours to be you and not Mommy or wife/girlfriend all the time.
Good luck, and you aren't at all crazy.