Dear, I think it's really normal because I understand how you feel right now.
I was once in a position which I couldn't look into the mirror without hating myself, feeling terrible and wishing I was someone else instead. Personally I have suffered from a skin problem and excessive sweating for years, and of course these problems have always embarrassed me in front of my classmates and made me feel absolutely self-aware. So please do believe me when I say I understand how you're feeling unpretty and not confident.
What I'm going to say may sound cliched to you, but I sincerely mean them :)
How you value yourself and define beauty is important. Having a boyfriend/many admirers or looking pretty doesn't necessarily make a person beautiful. Beauty is a state of being who you are honestly and confident.
I always believe that if you wish people to love you, then you have to love yourself first; if you wish people to think you're beautiful, then you have to believe yourself to be beautiful first. What's important is not how the others perceive you but how you perceive yourself.
I remember a quote from a book which may help you:
'And above all things, never think that you're not good enough yourself. A man should never think that. My belief is that in life people will take you at your own reckoning.' - Isaac Asimov (a writer)
I know it's hard for you to change yourself from being self-conscious to being confident all in a sudden. The transition takes time. But it's totally possible :)
You have to learn to accept yourself. You may feel bad about having brown skin but I think it's perfectly fine. You're just having a healthy skin tone. There're tons of beautiful girls/women who have brown skin too :)
And you have to believe that your appearance/look will change/improve as time passes by. There're just so many examples which even celebrities weren't so good-looking/popular when they're younger, just like Taylor Swift. You're just fourteen! The best things youth can bring you are plenty of time and hope! I'm confident that as you grow up, you'll be able to build up your confidence bit and bit. Things will work out for you :)
I think you should really learn to accept yourself and find out what you feel interested in. A healthy lifestyle is crucial. I would suggest developing a new & healthy hobby and meeting/befriending people who share the same interest. Focusing on something you're interested in/good at may help you to increase your sense of self-worth and become more assertive :)
I know I'm a complete stranger to you but I believe that you aren't ugly. All you need is some confidence. Your friends are right about 'you'll find the right guy someday'. I believe you'll find the right person when you finally learn to love yourself right!
I wish you can break through this depression and become confident soon. Take good care :)
IIN to feel ugly even at moments where you can possibly feel pretty
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Dear, I think it's really normal because I understand how you feel right now.
I was once in a position which I couldn't look into the mirror without hating myself, feeling terrible and wishing I was someone else instead. Personally I have suffered from a skin problem and excessive sweating for years, and of course these problems have always embarrassed me in front of my classmates and made me feel absolutely self-aware. So please do believe me when I say I understand how you're feeling unpretty and not confident.
What I'm going to say may sound cliched to you, but I sincerely mean them :)
How you value yourself and define beauty is important. Having a boyfriend/many admirers or looking pretty doesn't necessarily make a person beautiful. Beauty is a state of being who you are honestly and confident.
I always believe that if you wish people to love you, then you have to love yourself first; if you wish people to think you're beautiful, then you have to believe yourself to be beautiful first. What's important is not how the others perceive you but how you perceive yourself.
I remember a quote from a book which may help you:
'And above all things, never think that you're not good enough yourself. A man should never think that. My belief is that in life people will take you at your own reckoning.' - Isaac Asimov (a writer)
I know it's hard for you to change yourself from being self-conscious to being confident all in a sudden. The transition takes time. But it's totally possible :)
You have to learn to accept yourself. You may feel bad about having brown skin but I think it's perfectly fine. You're just having a healthy skin tone. There're tons of beautiful girls/women who have brown skin too :)
And you have to believe that your appearance/look will change/improve as time passes by. There're just so many examples which even celebrities weren't so good-looking/popular when they're younger, just like Taylor Swift. You're just fourteen! The best things youth can bring you are plenty of time and hope! I'm confident that as you grow up, you'll be able to build up your confidence bit and bit. Things will work out for you :)
I think you should really learn to accept yourself and find out what you feel interested in. A healthy lifestyle is crucial. I would suggest developing a new & healthy hobby and meeting/befriending people who share the same interest. Focusing on something you're interested in/good at may help you to increase your sense of self-worth and become more assertive :)
I know I'm a complete stranger to you but I believe that you aren't ugly. All you need is some confidence. Your friends are right about 'you'll find the right guy someday'. I believe you'll find the right person when you finally learn to love yourself right!
I wish you can break through this depression and become confident soon. Take good care :)