I was in the same boat. I knew my first love from when I was 5 years old. We were best friends. We got together when we were 17 and dated each other for over 2 years. I loved him to death, and it seemed that we had no real fights. We always just talked everything through. I was always worried about never having even dated anyone else, but he loved me so much... One day after a fabulous weekend with him, I just broke down and broke up with him. I made the mistake to keep seeing him until I made myself move to get away from him. When I moved, I found an amazing boy who was so much more perfect for me. I had never known I could be compatible like that because I had never tried anything else. He wasn't perfect for me either, but I am so much happier living my life now. Instead of strapping myself to a boy for the rest of my life, I became an independent woman who doesn't have to depend on anyone.
I have to say, breaking up with someone you love dearly is incredibly difficult, but it will just get harder. I had been lying to myself that I wanted to be in the relationship for a while. Make sure you aren't lying to yourself as well. You change the most during your late teens and early 20s. I am a totally different person than I was when I was dating my first love.
Experience life!! That doesn't mean have sex with different people. I skydived, went to Australia and scuba dived on the Great Barrier Reef, I went out dancing with my girlfriends... I became so much closer to my friends than I would ever have if I hadn't split with the boy. Life is exciting. If you feel stuck, do something to get unstuck!
Is it normal to feel trapped in a relationship?
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I was in the same boat. I knew my first love from when I was 5 years old. We were best friends. We got together when we were 17 and dated each other for over 2 years. I loved him to death, and it seemed that we had no real fights. We always just talked everything through. I was always worried about never having even dated anyone else, but he loved me so much... One day after a fabulous weekend with him, I just broke down and broke up with him. I made the mistake to keep seeing him until I made myself move to get away from him. When I moved, I found an amazing boy who was so much more perfect for me. I had never known I could be compatible like that because I had never tried anything else. He wasn't perfect for me either, but I am so much happier living my life now. Instead of strapping myself to a boy for the rest of my life, I became an independent woman who doesn't have to depend on anyone.
I have to say, breaking up with someone you love dearly is incredibly difficult, but it will just get harder. I had been lying to myself that I wanted to be in the relationship for a while. Make sure you aren't lying to yourself as well. You change the most during your late teens and early 20s. I am a totally different person than I was when I was dating my first love.
Experience life!! That doesn't mean have sex with different people. I skydived, went to Australia and scuba dived on the Great Barrier Reef, I went out dancing with my girlfriends... I became so much closer to my friends than I would ever have if I hadn't split with the boy. Life is exciting. If you feel stuck, do something to get unstuck!
Good Luck!! <3