Is it normal to feel this way at this age?

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Greetings all,

Essentially I am in college now, about to graduate, and I still feel my personality is not fully developed. I am constantly looking to others to assess what is socially acceptable and how to act. Before almost every action I think, "well what would whoever do?" or "what will people think?" I am constantly admiring other people for the way they act and I feel as if I never make a decision myself. I feel unconfident in many aspects of life and I just always feel unsure about how to act especially in social situations. I don't feel this way 24/7 but it encompasses a lot of my life.

This may not make a lot of sense but it's the best I can describe it. Thoughts? Suggestions?

Is It Normal?
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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago | pl

    Yep everyone does it

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  • whiteape
    10 years ago | pl

    He senses your insecurity and think it's easy to get inside your panties by bullying.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    I use to feel the same until a friend of mine gave me some advice that worked a treat. Go to a really crowded place with a group of homeless guys and have them spit in your mouth and put beer bottles in your bum. You feel so degraded and embarrased that no reaction anyone can give you will ever phase you again.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    It's human nature.

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  • blueplane
    13 years ago | pl

    Yes, I have felt the same way my entire life and I am also about to graduate from college.

    It just gets tiring to be thinking about everything you do and think about. Only recently have I realized that people will like you and want to be around you if you are true and open in being yourself. Just act the way you would if you were with your family, or people who love you no matter what. Just be, don't think.

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