Is it normal to feel this way about sex?

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Alright so I'm 23, and I've only had sex with one girl in my entire life and I find myself with little desire to have sex, in a way anyways. Being a young male I have plenty of urges, yet I would never have casual sex because I only want to share all aspects of myself, emotional and physical, with someone I'm truly in love with. The girl I was with I had planned to marry, but I had feelings and she didn't, life's grand isn't it.

Anyways, I often find myself lonely, and I dream of finding someone who will make me the happiest man alive. To be honest though, I promised myself I would only ever have sex with one person my entire life. While I desire finding someone else, I feel like doing so would require that I break my promise to myself, and I never make promises I don't intend to keep. Is this normal?

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  • rulerofthenight
    11 years ago | pl

    It's sad when the world we live in apparently thinks that saving yourself for one person is wierd or.. faked or some shit like that. people put too much importance on sex. worse yet.. the idea of having sex with one person is like a foreign concept. I think it is completely normal and even sweet that you want to do that. hard as it may be it will be rewarding at the end when you do share sex with your lucky lady. so.. hold fast.

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  • ChasingAfterPond<3
    11 years ago | pl

    If you find a woman that you love and she feels the same way towards you and you two decide to get married, having sex with her would not be a bad thing. Although you made that promise to yourself, it is ok if you break it because you are sharing yourself with the one you love.

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  • WildUtopia
    11 years ago | pl

    awesome mannn

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  • bleach_baby
    11 years ago | pl

    It's not about your promise to yourself, it's about you still being in love with that woman. When you're ready to move on, or when you meet someone else you have feelings for, the problem with naturally disappear.

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  • Maybeoneday
    10 years ago | pl

    It's normal to want to only share that with one person. I promised myself the same thing, but it didn't work out that way. I still care about my first love, but I know if it was really meant to be it would be. You'll fall in love again, it just takes time. Life's full of love, you just have to let it in, sharing yourself will be worth it when it's with the right gal.

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  • tellmeimwrong
    11 years ago | pl

    I completely understand all people talk about on television is sex. The media portraits it way too much and makes the people who don't have a lot of sex feel weird or abnormal.

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  • daddyfckme
    11 years ago | pl

    if you find ms. right and you get married would you have sex with her? you said one women and you already met her and she left right? if you didn't have sex with your new wife because you had sex with your ex girl, she wont be your new wife for long...life is short you only live once and your new promise to your self should be to MAKE YOU HAPPY!

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  • Runaway
    11 years ago | pl

    What motivated you to commit to having sex with only one person in your whole life? If I were you, I would really think hard about that. The girl not having feelings for you wasn't your fault, it's just the way some things work out. Sex and wanting sex is natural and happens to everyone, so why is it so wrong to act on a human desire?

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    • plum6
      10 years ago | pl

      the guy simply seems to associate sex with love, which is nice and moral and shit but kind of misplaced and unnatural in my opinion, especially at his age.

      I bet insecurity also plays a part in this, because he has only hed sex with someone that he knew and loved and vice versa and therefor felt comfortable with probably makes him think that when the situation is not like this he would feel uncomfortable.

      If the boy would just do it once (even in a drunk haze or whatever) I bet this would instantly change.

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  • mark777
    11 years ago | pl

    Hahahahahahahahaha,

    Dear woman, you are my one and only. You will fulfill my every need for the rest of my life.

    no wonder she left.

    get in touch with reality man.

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