Makes sense. Is there a way to save it, though? Stop the apparent inevitable? Even beyond the obsession, he's my best friend and I'd actually love to spend a life with him.
I was like this with 2 partners, the story same.
the first one(we were together more than a year and together all the time only work kept up apart) we broke up after a row (which happene because of the obsession )a few days later my partner wass tryingdddt o get me back. In the few days we were apart I realised I didn't need the relationship and was better aloneor playing the field or whatever.I was 19/20 at the time
The second time I was around 25 lasted a year + half, very intense in every way We were obsessed with each other. We broke up cause my partner had to go live in a different country. We stayed in touch clot , we didn't tell anyone we wd broken up. After about 6months of this I started seeing other people.We never said we would xwait for each other. Then we stop contact.
That ended a long time ago , I still think of that person and hope they are very happy. I think I really was in love. I never felt like that again can't another person and I'm sort of glad of that. I have been married since.
I can't give you advice but I guess I'm saying you are not alone and its quite normal.
Try not to argue about something which has come up just because not are obsessed. Like your partner talking to someone of the other sex for example, or being a bit late or putting the importance of anyone / anything else(family / work/ friends/ sport for example)anywhere near the level of the importance of you
Have a good life, he possible try to have some interests of your own.I don't mean taking up yoga or a martial art and then both going to the classes together. Yep we did that :)
Good luck, hope you both get what you want.
But remember if it ends it is not the end of the world AND maybe it is just the start ;)
Thank you for the story! Thank you for everything! You're so cool. That actually helped me a lot, and gave me hella insight on what to avoid as well as do in the future. Just, thank you for taking the time to respond in such a way. You're a good person.
We have been working on the clinginess. In all honesty, I haven't seen him in a few months. He's off in boot camp so our only communication is through letters or the rare phone call. Right now I'm just working hard so that he can be proud when he gets back. So far, it's going grand! I have an internship and a full ride in school. I also started kickboxing. I want to protect him, so why not? I'm waiting until he returns to tell him, can't wait.
With the jealousy thing, we both have resorted to simply talking about it bluntly instead of letting things fester. Usually we're so much into eachother that it doesn't end up a big deal anyway.
I'm just afraid that maybe, as arisen before, it gets to a point where he tires of me or vice versa. I love him. I want it to last. If it's abnormal and unhealthy, then I want to fight to make it better. I owe us that.
Pretty well! We're still together and just celebrated our three year anniversary a month ago and he's coming to visit in another two. I can't wait! Thank you for asking.
IIN to feel this way about my boyfriend?
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Makes sense. Is there a way to save it, though? Stop the apparent inevitable? Even beyond the obsession, he's my best friend and I'd actually love to spend a life with him.
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I was like this with 2 partners, the story same.
the first one(we were together more than a year and together all the time only work kept up apart) we broke up after a row (which happene because of the obsession )a few days later my partner wass tryingdddt o get me back. In the few days we were apart I realised I didn't need the relationship and was better aloneor playing the field or whatever.I was 19/20 at the time
The second time I was around 25 lasted a year + half, very intense in every way We were obsessed with each other. We broke up cause my partner had to go live in a different country. We stayed in touch clot , we didn't tell anyone we wd broken up. After about 6months of this I started seeing other people.We never said we would xwait for each other. Then we stop contact.
That ended a long time ago , I still think of that person and hope they are very happy. I think I really was in love. I never felt like that again can't another person and I'm sort of glad of that. I have been married since.
I can't give you advice but I guess I'm saying you are not alone and its quite normal.
Try not to argue about something which has come up just because not are obsessed. Like your partner talking to someone of the other sex for example, or being a bit late or putting the importance of anyone / anything else(family / work/ friends/ sport for example)anywhere near the level of the importance of you
Have a good life, he possible try to have some interests of your own.I don't mean taking up yoga or a martial art and then both going to the classes together. Yep we did that :)
Good luck, hope you both get what you want.
But remember if it ends it is not the end of the world AND maybe it is just the start ;)
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Thank you for the story! Thank you for everything! You're so cool. That actually helped me a lot, and gave me hella insight on what to avoid as well as do in the future. Just, thank you for taking the time to respond in such a way. You're a good person.
We have been working on the clinginess. In all honesty, I haven't seen him in a few months. He's off in boot camp so our only communication is through letters or the rare phone call. Right now I'm just working hard so that he can be proud when he gets back. So far, it's going grand! I have an internship and a full ride in school. I also started kickboxing. I want to protect him, so why not? I'm waiting until he returns to tell him, can't wait.
With the jealousy thing, we both have resorted to simply talking about it bluntly instead of letting things fester. Usually we're so much into eachother that it doesn't end up a big deal anyway.
I'm just afraid that maybe, as arisen before, it gets to a point where he tires of me or vice versa. I love him. I want it to last. If it's abnormal and unhealthy, then I want to fight to make it better. I owe us that.
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Thankyou for your reply.How are things working out now?
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Pretty well! We're still together and just celebrated our three year anniversary a month ago and he's coming to visit in another two. I can't wait! Thank you for asking.