Is it normal to feel this way

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Long story short. Been with bf for 3.5 yr and have a daughter with him. When daughter was days old I found out he'd been flirting with other women on the Internet. A few months after that it came to light that he'd exchanged numbers with them. He exchanged numbers with 2 but flirted with loads more.
I was devastated, it tore me apart. I was looking after his baby while he was acting like a single teenager not a 40 year old dad. He has stopped using the site he found these women now. But it hurts me even now and I've tried talking to him but he doesn't care about how I feel.
I started talking to one guy who kind of kept me sane. But my feelings have now grown for him although I don't love him I love my current bf but I don't trust him.
Sex life is down to 1 or 2 a week and that's just not good enough. He spends most of his day in a seperate room to me while I look after our daughter now 2 yrs old.
I am torn between leaving him for this other guy and staying with him. We've been through a lot together and had fun in the way but he's hurt me like never before. I need support from you guys with clues as to what to do please

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  • pipinya
    11 years ago

    they say "once a cheater, always a cheater" because its about the cheaters VIEW on relationships, and their ATTITUDE.
    If you're considering leaving, that's a good sign you should.
    As for advice, well, you could even speak to your current husband about it, let that be the deciding factor. I mean, what have you got to lose? If the conversation goes bad, then maybe it IS time to leave
    Gluck!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Leave him. Go take a great opportunity for happiness for you and your child.

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  • emmyrose
    13 years ago

    Thank you for your comment. Yes it is complicated and was lots of facts missed out because it would have turned into a full novel lol

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  • emmyrose
    13 years ago

    Yeah it is sad I need support but I have nobody to ask their opinion because I am without family where I live here, they are at the other end of the country.

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    • Echoes
      13 years ago

      I think it's too complicated to be discussed in here. If he'd started flirting after you got pregnant and had the baby, may be he only feels left out. Try to gain him back, give him another chance, and show him the things that made him fall in love with you in the first place, That's ONLY IF you really still love him. We men can be so childish sometimes and a$$holes most of the time.

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  • LiamHale
    13 years ago

    1- If you even CONSIDER leaving, it's a sign you SHOULD leave. 2- Just because you should leave doesn't mean you run off to that other dude. 3- Your daughter is your priority! The situation that's best for her is the one you should put her in. 4- It's kinda sad that you need "support" from random, critical people on the Internet.

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  • emmyrose
    13 years ago

    Bigd I agree she needs a Better father figure. The other guy paul has 2 daughters who he sees quite often but they don't live with him. I'm sure given time I can love Paul feelings grow for people who treat you well

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  • emmyrose
    13 years ago

    Randomjelly the reason I don't love the other guy is because I've only really ever spoken to him on the phone although I met him once for about 5 minutes.

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  • Big_D
    13 years ago

    Find someone else... you deserve better and so doesnt you daughter she needs a better father figure

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    If you don't love the other guy why in the hell would you b with him? That makes you as shitty as your husband. Just leave and find someone who loves you as much as you do them!

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