Is it normal to feel this way?

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I'm 17, female, and have had the same best friend for about four years. At around the same time that I met her, I started to come out to some close friends and her as bisexual. At first, I thought that I liked this best friend as more than a friend, but I recently realized that I may just feel strongly about our friendship... Is it normal not to know what my feelings are?

Also, I can't tell her I love her. Even as a friend, I can't say it. I can tell people I've known for a few months that I love them, but not her. Usually girls and their friends tell everyone that they love eachother, but I can say it to everyone except her. I think she notices it and gets a little hurt by it, but I still can't bring myself to say it...

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  • youdneverguess
    13 years ago

    You probably can't tell her cause you can't decide which way you love her. You could always say I love that you are in my life

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  • kit-kat-bar
    13 years ago

    Tell her how you feel and if you dont feel comfortable not saying it then dont, but if you do mean it, then say it, no matter if it might be akward. If it bugs you that much and are becoming uncomfortable with the situation, then maybe you are just attached and you need to get away from the situation all together

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  • capcandid
    14 years ago

    (being a girl) i thought i was in love with my best friend (of ten years) recently.

    i had really deep feelings for her at some point.
    i ignored them and blew it off for a few months.
    then i met this guy, who now i'm in real love with.
    having him, i look back and realize i really didn't have anything for my friend except friendship.
    we(friend and i) are so close we hug and gently touch (like hand holding and hair playing) but i really do feel it's like a sister- nothing romantic.

    having this new relationship with a man i can differentiate my feelings.
    just give it time until you find your definition of true love.

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  • angelsspike
    14 years ago

    Ihad a similar story, it's normal and it sucks but what do you want with your feelings toward her? If you can imagion being happy with her you sould confront her about your feeling but if you don't imagion her not being your friend and not risk possibly loosing her then I would try to move on and not think about it to much. I feel in love with my best friend for years and got jealous and everything but I didn't want to risk our friendship so it was fir the best not to tell her

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