Is it normal to feel suicidal, guilty, sad about my abortion 6 yrs ago

When I was 20, my boyfriend and his family pressured me into having an abortion.

I remained in contact with him, but now feel extremely sad, guilty and resentful towards my ex and myself for the abortion. Does this feeling ever go away?

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  • Don't listen to all these negative punks. Your young.. And don't ever let anyone pressure you to do something with your body again. Keep your head up doll. Everything will be okay.

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  • I'm sorry to hear about that, I think you need to talk to someone about it or get counseling before you get even more depressed, good luck :-)

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  • My aunt had an abortion with a man she ended up marrying (they were together for a long time before they got married) She now has two children by him, but she still mentions the abortion sadly sometimes, especially when drinking. You shouldnt feel guilty, as you were very young when you fell pregnant, but I think a part of you will always feel sad about it. It's a terrible situation to be in and I'm very sorry for you. I think the intensity of your feelings about it are perhaps a little more extreme than in most peoples cases, and I do think you should seek therapy or some kind of professional support to resolve your issues about it. Try and get in contact with a support group of other women who have been in similar situations. I hope this helps, best of luck

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  • Please don't take any notice of jerk comments and please see and talk to someone about this. You are not alone, lots of women go through this and feel the same as you and please whatever u do don't hurt yourself! You will get through this!

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  • If it's been 6 years you should definitely get some friends you can talk to and talk it over. I'm the kind if guy my friends come to with problems, and one of my friends had an abortion and all I could do to help her was get her laughing again. She's one of my better friends and I check up on her often, you need a friend that'll do the same.

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  • 17 years ago my then gf and I decided on an abortion. It seems to make sense at the time- bit afterwards our relationship suffered and we broke it off. I haven't talked to her in 16 or so years ago I don't know how she feels now, but I still feel guilty and wish I could go back and change it.

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  • Here's a crazy idea......
    If you're ready to raise a baby, find a pregnant woman(Plenty of pregnant teens) who wants to have an abortion, convince her to keep the baby. Once delivered the baby is yours. So you save a life for the life you unwillingly terminated.

    I know it sounds crazy, but crazy situations require crazy measures.

    If the above is not possible, please seek help. They killed your baby so don't let them slowly kill you too.

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    • That sounds like a good idea. Many women who had abortions and regretted it become "pro life" demonstrators to try and save other babies. I myself have attended various anti-abortion campaigns.

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  • You need to go to a doctor and ask him for an anti depressant. Then find a qualified therapist asap and begin counseling sessions. Please don't put off doing this. And I second everything Gardenia said!

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  • Sorry for the lengthy comments but personally , i don't think the feelings ever leaves you - however .. There are alot more options for counselling etc available today to help cope with these feelings & to take some hold back on your life - i wish you the best x

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  • 22 years later , i still suffer deep periods of depression , sadness & guilt because of it.

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  • Street with the daughter i had already .. I agreed to the abortion literally crying my guts out to the clinic & before & after the procedure .. I didn't leave the hospital for over an hour as , i kept passing out & vomiting .. The loss/guilt/sadness i felt was immense .. & to this day -

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  • Tongan .. my mother said to me "you get rid of that black bastard" .. or "i'll get rid of your baby sister & go have an abortion tomorrow" .. after protesting , she contacted the abortion clinic to terminate her pregnancy .. half out of guilt & half out of not wanting to be kicked out onto the -

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  • Personally for me .. These feelings have never left me , i was forced by my mum to have an abortion at 16 .. I already in all fairness had a daughter of one and a half years old & my mother was also pregnant with my youngest sister .. to add to this - my partner at the time was dark skinned a -

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  • AA meeting or something. Adopt a baby? Or do it and have a baby.

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  • Google abortion help groups in your area. I know in my town there are several christian/non profit orgs that don't judge and what they do is help with the trauma caused by getting the abortion.
    It helps when you speak with other women that have gone through it. There's nothing you can do about it now except learn how to heal. There's no shame in just calling one of those places up to see what they're all about.

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  • I had gotten an abortion 5 months ago and its normal to feel sad and little depressed..but not suicidal

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  • Its understandable. Get therapy please so that you feel better and are stable when you have a baby... Otherwise being pregnant and keeping baby next time will emotionally be too much. You need to b ready for when you can be a mom and be a great mom!

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  • this is one of thoes to=imes when should get counceling

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  • Totally normal and no I don't think it does ever go away

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  • you need anti depressantes or therapy

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  • That is your child. If you want it you should keep it. If you dont should maybe think about adoption and if you are going to die if you dont get it aborted thats understandable. Which has happened in many cases. You were 20 why are they so against children anyways? Late to early 20s is when most people have the kid. I do not blame you but I am wondering why someone would say "ABORT" at age 20. I dont know the family or your boyfriend but from this they all sound like bastards. If you are 20 why the fuck cant you keep the baby? I think your boyfriend was too lazy to raise a kid and his family were just big enough assholes they would sacrifice a child for his selfishness. Next time think of the motives behind it. I am very sorry you got fucked over. I would never speak to your boyfriend ever again. He sounds like an irresponsible, inconsiderate dickhole.

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  • Im sorry. But never let anyone, EVER talk you into getting an abortion. If you dont want the child, put it up for adoption. If you were only a few weeks or like a month and a half along. I wouldnt mind, but if that poor baby developed fingers and features... Thats terrible

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  • As long as your alive and your almost baby's not! then yeah " your pain will never go away. Jk lol waka waka waka

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  • Don't give in! That's what this pro-life, pro-breeding agenda is trying to do, make you feel guilty. You shouldn't feel guilty for getting rid of an worthless, unwanted crotch dropping!

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  • yeah you should.. get a baby again and don't abort it so that you never ever feel regret anymore..

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