I haven't been on her page in months and I deleted her from my friends list over a year ago, so it's nothing like that. The primary issue for me is my group of friends. They don't seem to have any sense of awareness when talking about my ex. Going so far to talk about sexual matters regarding her and talking about what her current boyfriend is like. One of my friends knows her ESPECIALLY well so he passes on everything he hears about her to all his friends, whether they care of not. He's a gossip basically.
One of my friends even knows how I feel about her and yet he'll join in the banter if the subject comes up. It can really be a set back when I'm trying to move on. I could feel great about where I am in life and then someone brings up how rich her current boyfriend is and everything they're doing together and it's a huge downer.
And asking them to stop? Not possible if I plan on keeping my struggles secret from my ex.
Not really good friends if they keep talking about things that cause you pain. Try and keep out of their way for a while. Pretend work is hectic deadlines need to be met and just stay out of their way.
I apologise for assuming you were taking an unusual amount of interest in her life. Thats the vibe I was getting from your original story.
Well the way I said it definately sounded like I had been stalking her facebook alright! Since I described how she dressed and how her boyfriend is more attractive than me. But I have seen a photo of them from facebook, just one though. Truthfully she pops up in my facebook feed alot despite not being on my friends list but that doesn't really bother me. I just see her profile picture and that's it.
But ya, regarding my friends I've considered just not being around them for a while. In fact there's only one in particular I want to dodge. But he's so ingrained into my group of friends that meeting up without him is seemingly impossible.
Is it normal to feel so outdone by my ex's current boyfriend?
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I haven't been on her page in months and I deleted her from my friends list over a year ago, so it's nothing like that. The primary issue for me is my group of friends. They don't seem to have any sense of awareness when talking about my ex. Going so far to talk about sexual matters regarding her and talking about what her current boyfriend is like. One of my friends knows her ESPECIALLY well so he passes on everything he hears about her to all his friends, whether they care of not. He's a gossip basically.
One of my friends even knows how I feel about her and yet he'll join in the banter if the subject comes up. It can really be a set back when I'm trying to move on. I could feel great about where I am in life and then someone brings up how rich her current boyfriend is and everything they're doing together and it's a huge downer.
And asking them to stop? Not possible if I plan on keeping my struggles secret from my ex.
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Not really good friends if they keep talking about things that cause you pain. Try and keep out of their way for a while. Pretend work is hectic deadlines need to be met and just stay out of their way.
I apologise for assuming you were taking an unusual amount of interest in her life. Thats the vibe I was getting from your original story.
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Well the way I said it definately sounded like I had been stalking her facebook alright! Since I described how she dressed and how her boyfriend is more attractive than me. But I have seen a photo of them from facebook, just one though. Truthfully she pops up in my facebook feed alot despite not being on my friends list but that doesn't really bother me. I just see her profile picture and that's it.
But ya, regarding my friends I've considered just not being around them for a while. In fact there's only one in particular I want to dodge. But he's so ingrained into my group of friends that meeting up without him is seemingly impossible.