Is it normal to feel so inadequate

I have a b/f of 2 months who treats me good, but there's one thing wrong. He speaks of how hot he finds other girls, and how hot his much younger ex was, he's even called me by her name a couple of times. I have has a few bad relationships in the past, the first where my ex, (father of my 3 kids) cheated on me with prostitutes. This left me with zero self esteem, and he also drugged and raped me. He told me countless times no one would want me. I saw sense and got out of the 15 year relationship and sorted myself and the kids out. Then I had a 1 year relationship with a guy who I'd known since I was 5. ( I am 34). He asked me to marry him, we got engaged but all along he was cheating and having text/ web sex with other girls. I met my current b/f and we are happy but by saying these things I feel so inadequate. I feel I will never measure up to these women and it makes me feel shit. I tell him and he laughs it off. I have small boobs and don't feel like a real woman as it is, people tell me I am pretty but I can't see it, I think they are just being nice. Is this normal to feel like this? Am I over reacting? Btw my current b/f knows about my past.

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  • Don't sell yourself short. You are beautiful, you are smart, you are sexy, funny and fun to be with. Someone out there will want you, will love you and only you, and will accept you with your baggage. Don't try so hard to be with someone. Wait, he will come to you.

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  • Dump him. He's a dumb fuck without a heart. Dont let him continue to hurt you

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  • start really appreciating the male physique, openly. go into details about how certain men make you hot, the hottest you have ever been. this is childish i know, but your bf is irritating. i dont see a future

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  • umm, no. your bf does NOT treat you well. You only think this because you don't know any better, and you're only comparing him to your past relationships, which were horrible. So comparatively, it might seem like a "good" relationship, but come on now.. you're already telling us how he treats you like shit and makes you feel inadequate all the time, and he laughs it off when you try to talk to him about it.

    Having said that, I can't say that you deserve way better because I do not know you or your bf. Maybe you're just really insecure and will settle for whatever. You need to learn how to love yourself first.. how can the guy love and respect you if you can't even do it yourself?

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  • Well if you have talked it over and he don't understand then maybe find someone who know that he should compliment his gf and not the random chicks.

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  • Take it easy. Sounds like you've had a rough life. You know this b/f of yours you should listen to him. Take what hes saying for what its worth. You can try your best to read into something that others are saying but really your only fooling yourself. If you care about this man you need to trust him. And as for all your ex b/f's move on or get help. And I'd say at times its normal to feel the way you do. Your just in a slump. The best is yet to come.

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