Is it normal to feel pressure from gay guy?

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I don't really like gay people so this kind of blindsided me. He came up to me when I was ordering food, seemed cool said wassup...I could tell he was nervous though which I thought was weird.
Then he said "do you know anything about the gay club around the corner" to which my response was "never heard of it mate" and there was this awkward silence.
My face kinda went more serious as I realized he had just implied interest in me in a HOMO way, he noticed this and said "oh okay, kool man (puts hand up to high five me)" -this is the part that angers me - I figured this dude was harmless but as I fucking high fived him - HE INTERLOCKED HIS FINGERS with mine and SMILED IN MY FACE.... I snatched my hand away and put my headphones on until my food was ready.
I always thought if I was thrown into this situation my instinct would punch the gay dude. But I just felt incredibly uncomfortable - soo much so that when I left, I felt ANGRY at how UNCOMFORTABLE he had made me. (Kinda wanted to to hurt him)
Is this normal? I guess this is how women feel with overly aggresive dudes....but I'm mad this happened to me

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  • novel08
    8 years ago | pl

    Dude, I am gay and that kind of behaviour would have made me uncomfortable as well. I would have punched him - except that it is not cool to punch people.

    But please don't hate gays, just morons.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    8 years ago | pl

    Normal. Everyone gets hit on by an annoying pushy person at least once in their life.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago | pl

    I think I would be flattered to have someone find me attractive enough to 'hit on me', male or female. Since neither actually has though, I can't say for sure. But I don't see getting mad as something that I would do. I see no point in all that emotion over a few second encounter.

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  • Budde
    8 years ago | pl

    He invaded your personal space and over stepped his bounds you reaction was perfectly normal

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  • Icyblueeyes
    8 years ago | pl

    Glad you had this experience that taught you how women feel.

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  • CountessDouche
    8 years ago | pl

    Hahahaha. I was so about to ream you until I read the last sentence (and shame on me, for assuming it's any different for a guy being aggressively persued than it is for a woman!)

    It sucks; it's creepy; you'll get over it. Take it as a compliment that delivers mild shivers of disgust (that's what I do when a gross guy hits on me too hard). Hot showers, lots of soap, a bit of a cry, possibly a pizza. You'll be ok, lady, you'll be ok.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago | pl

    Yeah, I know it sucks... that's what it feels like when some overly aggressive loser hits on you. I'm sorry you had that experience.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago | pl

      but the fact he viewed ME like THAT.....ughhh....ohhh gooddd. I think this is karma for all the Drunk approaches I have ever done to women.......

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  • Avant-Garde
    8 years ago | pl

    He pushed the boundaries of normal flirting into abnormal flirting when he tricks you into a hand interlock and had the nerve to smile, after you had made it quite clear that you weren't interested. The nerve of some people. Sometimes, I think the gay community creates its own problems. His actions make the community look bad. I don't blame you for feeling violated and angry. I'd be upset too.

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  • OtherSide
    8 years ago | pl

    If you want to chase a gay guy away without hurting his feelings, just tell him you've promised yourself to Jesus.

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  • handsignals
    8 years ago | pl

    I would have just stuck a blond wig on him called him Susie and make him suck me off....problem solved.

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