It's pretty common in your first few relationships, yes, but it's really unhealthy.
You need to ask yourself two questions:
Do you trust your bf? If the answer is truly no, then you shouldn't be with him.
Do you trust yourself? What i mean here is, do you trust yourself to be worthy of a relationship? Do you trust your abilitues to handle it if it doesn't work out? Do you trust that you don't have any insecurities that would make you question why someone would stay with you? You have to be honest here...because a lot of the time feelings like this drive jealousy. If you don't trust that you are worthy of a relationship or if you fear losing a relationship, you will act out to try & secure yoir "power" in that relationship as a means to reassure yourself.
It could be a combination of the two, but you might have to work on some of your own issues in addition to whatever it is that he might be doing to make you feel insecure. The thing is, if you harbor a bunch of issues with self worth, it won't matter how good your relationship is. They will always surface & will always make you question things in ways that are just destructive.
Either way, you can't just place restrictions on another person's life & friendships. It just won't work.
Is it normal to feel overly jealous?
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It's pretty common in your first few relationships, yes, but it's really unhealthy.
You need to ask yourself two questions:
Do you trust your bf? If the answer is truly no, then you shouldn't be with him.
Do you trust yourself? What i mean here is, do you trust yourself to be worthy of a relationship? Do you trust your abilitues to handle it if it doesn't work out? Do you trust that you don't have any insecurities that would make you question why someone would stay with you? You have to be honest here...because a lot of the time feelings like this drive jealousy. If you don't trust that you are worthy of a relationship or if you fear losing a relationship, you will act out to try & secure yoir "power" in that relationship as a means to reassure yourself.
It could be a combination of the two, but you might have to work on some of your own issues in addition to whatever it is that he might be doing to make you feel insecure. The thing is, if you harbor a bunch of issues with self worth, it won't matter how good your relationship is. They will always surface & will always make you question things in ways that are just destructive.
Either way, you can't just place restrictions on another person's life & friendships. It just won't work.