I don't understand your comment exactly?
Plus you also stated: "To my children: 0, hehe." Which is a contradiction isn't it?
Anyway, my main point is that YOU (and everyone) is the most important thing ever. Ever ever ever.
You may learn this when you are scrounging past others when a big explosion happens or something.
Yes its true that people will selflessly sacrifice their own life for others. Even people they don't know. A perfect example may be a fireman running into a burning house to save the occupants. BUT that's only because they know that everyone is just as important (being most important) to everyone else. ie you could be saved too!.
By the way the 'Godly' point. I'd say the believers should be the first to go to war and fight (and be killed) since they THINK they are going to a better place anyhow. Its a shame they can't commit suicide, I wish the church would.
What I meant by that was my "future children" which will never exist so I mean absolutely nothing to non-existent children. And if people were put on earth to procreate, I'm pretty darn useless.
Funny about the church thing. If they weren't so relentless with their preaches and attempts to get you to "find Jesus and save your souls" they wouldn't be so bad.
Oh, I can't argue with that, there's just nothing else to say. Its like what you've written is the end of the book.
Oh wait, that procreate point. No I don't feel that's the reason we are here. Nor obviously makes you better or worse of a person for it.
All I was saying is you can be one down from your own kids, if you have or going to have any. IF there are no children involved (to die for, that type of thing) then you are on top of the list as most important.
Therefore making you the opposite of useless (oh wait, useful) :)
I suppose. I wish I could have children, though. Every time I see one, my heart tears to pieces. I just feel useless...well, hopeless is a better word I guess. Thanks for putting it that way. :)
Whilst my kids were growing up (to their now teenage years) they had many friends that would come and go. Some staying the night and we even went on holidays (well a 4 day camping trip) with one of those 'best friends' once.
I noticed that the 'friends' do become part of the family a bit. ie I fed them, and even helped them if they fell (that sought of thing)
The point is, that if you really want to have kids but can't, then there is still the option of adoption and believing that child is yours to love and hold, care for and guide. The child would also honestly feel you are the parent, since you would be!
So all is not lost for people who have physical (?) issues that they cannot have a child.
I'm not sure if that's an avenue for you or not? Or even 'one day'?
The other option is becoming a coach or child care worker or helper or something else that allows you to help guide and basically bring up a child in some description or another.
I wonder if any of these things have crossed your mind?
Even sponsoring a 3rd world child, then hopefully visiting his/her community one day?
Basically after you have a child you cannot imagine life without them.
My only concern is they keep getting older!
I have thought about adoption, but personally, I'd always feel disconnected from them. I want to be able to experience the whole pregnancy thing, the weird cravings, the mood swings, tough ballooned belly, random people asking when I'm due and having the chance to feel the precious child kicking around inside me. I'm still young, but by force, i had to grow up faster than most women my age. I just get so frustrated when i think about it . I've also considered the 3rd would housing option, but it just wouldn't be the same, y'know? As for having a job in the child department...there aren't really many options where I live. :(
Oh I forgot about marrying a sole dad, ironically!!
Yes I understand and emphasize with the pregnancy time. The woman is supposedly radiating and without a doubt everyone wants to chat and ask how things are. Plus also obviously just the feeling of a life forming inside you.
Mind you we are talking approx. 9 months. Plus there are a lot of obvious discomforts, and the mood swings are definitely not a good thing, that with possible morning sickness. Let alone the actual giving birth! I understand there may be young women on this forum, but I should tell you that its WORSE than what you hear of. Yes yes some give birth in under an hour and it was all glory, but 99.9% go through agonizing pain where they plead for an epidural injection to be inserted into their spine just to numb the pain!! Seriously there is no other way of saying this, if it wasn't for modern medicine and pain relief, many women could easily die from giving birth alone (as they once did)
Mind you, this giving birth may be for average time about 8hrs, can be days! And the pregnancy again is about 9 and a half months. The baby/child/person lives for about 100years! So the REAL important stuff happens after they are born. This is where you come in ;)
Is it normal to feel more important than you are?
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I don't understand your comment exactly?
Plus you also stated: "To my children: 0, hehe." Which is a contradiction isn't it?
Anyway, my main point is that YOU (and everyone) is the most important thing ever. Ever ever ever.
You may learn this when you are scrounging past others when a big explosion happens or something.
Yes its true that people will selflessly sacrifice their own life for others. Even people they don't know. A perfect example may be a fireman running into a burning house to save the occupants. BUT that's only because they know that everyone is just as important (being most important) to everyone else. ie you could be saved too!.
By the way the 'Godly' point. I'd say the believers should be the first to go to war and fight (and be killed) since they THINK they are going to a better place anyhow. Its a shame they can't commit suicide, I wish the church would.
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What I meant by that was my "future children" which will never exist so I mean absolutely nothing to non-existent children. And if people were put on earth to procreate, I'm pretty darn useless.
Funny about the church thing. If they weren't so relentless with their preaches and attempts to get you to "find Jesus and save your souls" they wouldn't be so bad.
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Oh, I can't argue with that, there's just nothing else to say. Its like what you've written is the end of the book.
Oh wait, that procreate point. No I don't feel that's the reason we are here. Nor obviously makes you better or worse of a person for it.
All I was saying is you can be one down from your own kids, if you have or going to have any. IF there are no children involved (to die for, that type of thing) then you are on top of the list as most important.
Therefore making you the opposite of useless (oh wait, useful) :)
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I suppose. I wish I could have children, though. Every time I see one, my heart tears to pieces. I just feel useless...well, hopeless is a better word I guess. Thanks for putting it that way. :)
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Whilst my kids were growing up (to their now teenage years) they had many friends that would come and go. Some staying the night and we even went on holidays (well a 4 day camping trip) with one of those 'best friends' once.
I noticed that the 'friends' do become part of the family a bit. ie I fed them, and even helped them if they fell (that sought of thing)
The point is, that if you really want to have kids but can't, then there is still the option of adoption and believing that child is yours to love and hold, care for and guide. The child would also honestly feel you are the parent, since you would be!
So all is not lost for people who have physical (?) issues that they cannot have a child.
I'm not sure if that's an avenue for you or not? Or even 'one day'?
The other option is becoming a coach or child care worker or helper or something else that allows you to help guide and basically bring up a child in some description or another.
I wonder if any of these things have crossed your mind?
Even sponsoring a 3rd world child, then hopefully visiting his/her community one day?
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My only concern is they keep getting older!
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I have thought about adoption, but personally, I'd always feel disconnected from them. I want to be able to experience the whole pregnancy thing, the weird cravings, the mood swings, tough ballooned belly, random people asking when I'm due and having the chance to feel the precious child kicking around inside me. I'm still young, but by force, i had to grow up faster than most women my age. I just get so frustrated when i think about it . I've also considered the 3rd would housing option, but it just wouldn't be the same, y'know? As for having a job in the child department...there aren't really many options where I live. :(
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Oh I forgot about marrying a sole dad, ironically!!
Yes I understand and emphasize with the pregnancy time. The woman is supposedly radiating and without a doubt everyone wants to chat and ask how things are. Plus also obviously just the feeling of a life forming inside you.
Mind you we are talking approx. 9 months. Plus there are a lot of obvious discomforts, and the mood swings are definitely not a good thing, that with possible morning sickness. Let alone the actual giving birth! I understand there may be young women on this forum, but I should tell you that its WORSE than what you hear of. Yes yes some give birth in under an hour and it was all glory, but 99.9% go through agonizing pain where they plead for an epidural injection to be inserted into their spine just to numb the pain!! Seriously there is no other way of saying this, if it wasn't for modern medicine and pain relief, many women could easily die from giving birth alone (as they once did)
Mind you, this giving birth may be for average time about 8hrs, can be days! And the pregnancy again is about 9 and a half months. The baby/child/person lives for about 100years! So the REAL important stuff happens after they are born. This is where you come in ;)