You are still the most important person to you. ie You can even have more children!
I have only replied to your original point of men are not maternal (agreed since that is a female quality ONLY)
I did also imply that what you stated was immature and non responsible generally selfish and childish.
Having a baby girl, is STILL your responsibility 'legally', if you can't do this normally as a father should.
Did you even see the pic of the dad and daughter on the link I posted? YOU are missing out on LEARNING to love and enjoy your OWN child. This is without a doubt extremely sad for both you and your daughter. I'm very sorry that you put yourself in this situation for your daughter's life without a LOVING Dad!!!
Thats if you give a shit about other people. It doesn't seem sad to me, i only felt sad when she was born and the months following. As soon as contact stopped, i began to cheer up....i know it's weird, but it feels normal to me.
To tell you the truth its interesting hearing the opposite standing on this.
Although I have obviously met bloky men at the pub, who obviously feel the same as you (it seems)
Still, if you could just find it in your heart to send a present on her birthday or other occasions too, I'm POSITIVE it would mean the WORLD of difference to her one day. And it may save your life if she hunts you down too Lol jks, But not joking about a card or 'special' present, at least on a yearly date! (at least)
I just can't help feel that she will always want to know of you. Are you dead? Do you care? Even a little? You know that type of compassionate understanding a daughter would like to hear once a year!! Even through a card (treasured special gift would be better)
I've tried enough. Maybe give it 1% of thought one day soon.
Oh and obviously don't go the opposite way and burn their house down or anything, because that's actually worse! go figure :)
This is probably the most serious thing i've ever said so it's easier that you're a stranger. I'm not dead but i've got skeletons in my closet that a family can't be dragged into...i like to joke around on this site alot because it takes my mind off things, but the day that i have to make the biggest moral and ethical decision of my life is coming. I can't put anyone else through it, not while my mom is alive atleast. She's better off not knowing who I am at all. If i hadn't have screwed up in such a way, i'd probably want kids. I'm going to hell.
is it normal to feel men do not want kids
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Nope it's science, men don't actually have maternal instincts. It's not something you choose. Or you're just a whipped puss puss.
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I'm stating that MEN are NOT MATERNAL, they are PATERNAL
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paternal_bond
"The father of a child can develop the bond during the pregnancy of his partner, feeling attachment to the developing child....."
"Fathers find many ways to strengthen the father-child bond with their children, such as soothing, consoling, feeding..............."
ie ITS NATURAL
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"The father of a child can develop the bond during the pregnancy of his partner, feeling attachment to the developing child....."
Keyword "can"
But the whole thing just gives me the creeps, i get one life...be damned if i'm not going to live it for me...otherwise it's a waste.
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You are still the most important person to you. ie You can even have more children!
I have only replied to your original point of men are not maternal (agreed since that is a female quality ONLY)
I did also imply that what you stated was immature and non responsible generally selfish and childish.
Having a baby girl, is STILL your responsibility 'legally', if you can't do this normally as a father should.
Did you even see the pic of the dad and daughter on the link I posted? YOU are missing out on LEARNING to love and enjoy your OWN child. This is without a doubt extremely sad for both you and your daughter. I'm very sorry that you put yourself in this situation for your daughter's life without a LOVING Dad!!!
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Thats if you give a shit about other people. It doesn't seem sad to me, i only felt sad when she was born and the months following. As soon as contact stopped, i began to cheer up....i know it's weird, but it feels normal to me.
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To tell you the truth its interesting hearing the opposite standing on this.
Although I have obviously met bloky men at the pub, who obviously feel the same as you (it seems)
Still, if you could just find it in your heart to send a present on her birthday or other occasions too, I'm POSITIVE it would mean the WORLD of difference to her one day. And it may save your life if she hunts you down too Lol jks, But not joking about a card or 'special' present, at least on a yearly date! (at least)
I just can't help feel that she will always want to know of you. Are you dead? Do you care? Even a little? You know that type of compassionate understanding a daughter would like to hear once a year!! Even through a card (treasured special gift would be better)
I've tried enough. Maybe give it 1% of thought one day soon.
Oh and obviously don't go the opposite way and burn their house down or anything, because that's actually worse! go figure :)
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This is probably the most serious thing i've ever said so it's easier that you're a stranger. I'm not dead but i've got skeletons in my closet that a family can't be dragged into...i like to joke around on this site alot because it takes my mind off things, but the day that i have to make the biggest moral and ethical decision of my life is coming. I can't put anyone else through it, not while my mom is alive atleast. She's better off not knowing who I am at all. If i hadn't have screwed up in such a way, i'd probably want kids. I'm going to hell.