Is it normal to feel lonely and isolated?

The world is full of people just like you, but society today has taught us that we are to be an empire unto ourselves and conversations should only include things that are more interesting than whats on TV. The next problem we face as men is that when you open up to people about feelings like this, they may look down upon you, judging you, even if they dont mean to. But there is happiness for you in life, its out there, but it will never replace what you were denied as a child... the things many people have also taken for granted, these being the people most likely to judge you as well. I applaud your courage and wish you well.

Why arent you talking deeply with your wife? She of all people should be the one you share everything with.

This weekend I will call the friend I can open up to. Perhaps I can gain some insight. Listening to Josh Groban's song, "Thankful", made me a little more hopeful. I think I may have to find ways to make my job more enjoyable and less monotonous. And I definitely need more physical contact with my wife. One of my cats, Freddie, is a great comfort to me, the way he always comes to me and sits on my chest when I'm on the couch. I think I wasn't hugged and cuddled enough when I was very young, and now I crave it constantly. I need the warmth and closeness I missed early on.

This is how i feel. Sometimes i wonder if i have some kind of mental issue- Not implying that you do or anything. You should talk to somebody about it, open up a 'lil.

Bottom line is no one is stopping you from talking about your feelings except you. You are a grown person! Grow up and say what you have to say. Sometimes it isn't pretty, but we all have the tendency to blame life or others for our lack of content. Express yourself, and if she can't work through it with you, then maybe you are in the wrong relationship.

yep life suks n then you die. sounds like u need depression pills maybe ? find a hobbie or maybe make love to a man or if u deffinatly wont do that then find a second lady to freind up with to talk and sexy times

You are living my life.....I am the same way and my wife is exactly like yours. If it isn't about her she don't want to hear it. I just keep hoping I will wake up and things will change.....

Volunteer. Maybe at a nursing home, or food pantry. It's amazing what insight you can gain, and how it makes you feel knowing that you're matter to someone. Try it!

You need to really let loose in your stamp club and start telling dirty stories about your wild sex life, then get your wife into it, and eventually work up to a stamp-filled orgy.

If, for some odd reason, you get kicked out of the club you can always join a rock climbing club.

Join the club

I think your just like me. I'm only 20 but I feel I can't open up to my family or my one friends without sounding self-indulgent or completely off-base. I don't think your wife will understand you unless she's been through it too- you might have "social anxiety" which is what the doc said I have.

What are your dreams by the way?

Well then maybe sit her down and explain that you need her to listen not talk when you are talking.

By the way, I hope you are not considering cheating on your wife...

We have been married 36 years and have talked a lot about our problems, feelings, etc. We have also been to mental health professionals.

I have tried to talk to my wife many, many times about my feelings, as she has to me about hers. But many times she has said, "It's all about you, isn't it?" and felt that I don't consider or think about her feelings. However, I do. And I do try to help her resolve issues and feelings. Sometimes what I say helps her. How do I get her to listen to me nonjudgmentally and offer help and guidance? Perhaps she feels my problems, feelings and issues are too much for her to deal with. How do I handle that? How do you talk to your wife when you have this situation?