Is it normal to feel like you can't be loved?

82% Normal
14 Comments

I feel like I'm a disgusting person on the inside, I've made so many mistakes and feel as if I'm eternally flawed. I have really awful anger issues, depression, drug dependence, and defeating envy. I feel that I cannot get into relationships even though I like chatting with many women but I feel I will let all of them down since I cannot trust myself to be a real good person to be around. I'm very disconnected from my family and friends so how could I even create a connection with a significant other?

Voting Results
82% Normal
Based on 17 votes (14 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 14 )
  • Tato
    5 years ago

    From what you posted, you do seem like a shitty catch for the ladies, so your feeling is normal.

    Use the self-loathing you feel as a catalyst for self improvement. Ofc, whatever baggage you have is always gonna be there, but it might be lighter on your back as you get more comfortable with the new and improved you.
    Improving one's self isn't easy, so remember how you feel about yourself now.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
  • IceRed
    5 years ago

    It's very possible to improve yourself even from your state. It's super difficult and takes dedication and support. There are many places where you can find guidance. It's up to yourself where you go from here.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • kelili
    5 years ago

    You have to work on yourself, learn to love yourself again and then you'll be ready to love someone. At least you know that you have issues and you recognise those issues. Try working on these and give yourself time.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    You aren't going to like this, but I personally feel that the first thing you need to do is to sober up there, dude. Checkout the website below.

    http://m.na.org/

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • nikkiclaire
      5 years ago

      Lol why NA AA is just as effective with drugs.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Why not NA?

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • nikkiclaire
          5 years ago

          Too much turnover. NA tends to have much more short term sobriety.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            Hmm... I did not know that. I do think that some of the guys in NA are a little too friendly which can be annoying to put it quite lightly.

            I had a friend about 8 years ago that what a recovering alcoholic, and drug addict, and I used to occasionally accompany her to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. I think I only went to one Narcotics Anonymous meeting. I vaguely remember one time when my friend, and I went out to eat we ran into some guy she knew who was from her NA meeting, and he was all randomly saying, "I love you, so and so", he also wanted a hug from her. It's not a bad thing, but I figured it's more appropriate just after the meeting than when you randomly see that person in public... meh.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
              -
            • nikkiclaire
              5 years ago

              Hugs are part of both groups. I don't participate in the hugging of randoms but I do with people I have come to trust.

              I attend both but AA is better for my personal recovery. Of course it's only my experience but NA is more of a meat market.

              Comment Hidden ( show )
              -1
              -1
  • brutus
    5 years ago

    Its all normal

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • LornaMae
    5 years ago

    Seems you need to have a better relationship with yourself before you even start thinking of creating connections with others...

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0