I commented on this before but I erased it. I didn't give the story a fair shake and I think you deserve a better answer.
Your friends are away at college and that doesn't make them better than you.
The first problem you're having is feeling alone for not going to a university. Although, it wasn't the wrong decision, you feel as if it is because your friends followed the "status quo" and you didn't
I had this same problem. I chose to stay and take on CC debt. It was more tolerable. Then, recession hit. I thanked god I made the choice I did.
As time progressed, my friends came home with college degrees in things that didn't even interest them AND a load of debt.
Second, you seem to have everything that's wrong with you figured out. You obviously know where the problems are, all you have to do is motivate yourself to fix them.
When you begin realizing you want to give up, push yourself! Set goals you want to achieve, like getting your license. I think that would be a huge accomplishment for you and help you get more self confidence.
Third, If you want friends, college is a good time to just talk to people. Anyone! There aren't many tightly knit "clicks" in college. Normally, everyone is just kinda going through the motions and keeping to themselves. No need to feel intimidated. These people probably want new friends as well.
A lot of people don't have jobs right now. Keep that in mind. It's a hard for everyone, not just you. You're not alone. It seems like the whole college thing is whats really bothering you. Don't let that effect the rest of your life. Take your time when figuring out what you want to do. Most importantly take it easy on yourself. Don't let anyone rush you or tell you you're living your life wrong.
sorry for the other post. It was idiotic. I hope this helps.
Is it normal to feel like I've failed at life (at 19)?
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I commented on this before but I erased it. I didn't give the story a fair shake and I think you deserve a better answer.
Your friends are away at college and that doesn't make them better than you.
The first problem you're having is feeling alone for not going to a university. Although, it wasn't the wrong decision, you feel as if it is because your friends followed the "status quo" and you didn't
I had this same problem. I chose to stay and take on CC debt. It was more tolerable. Then, recession hit. I thanked god I made the choice I did.
As time progressed, my friends came home with college degrees in things that didn't even interest them AND a load of debt.
Second, you seem to have everything that's wrong with you figured out. You obviously know where the problems are, all you have to do is motivate yourself to fix them.
When you begin realizing you want to give up, push yourself! Set goals you want to achieve, like getting your license. I think that would be a huge accomplishment for you and help you get more self confidence.
Third, If you want friends, college is a good time to just talk to people. Anyone! There aren't many tightly knit "clicks" in college. Normally, everyone is just kinda going through the motions and keeping to themselves. No need to feel intimidated. These people probably want new friends as well.
A lot of people don't have jobs right now. Keep that in mind. It's a hard for everyone, not just you. You're not alone. It seems like the whole college thing is whats really bothering you. Don't let that effect the rest of your life. Take your time when figuring out what you want to do. Most importantly take it easy on yourself. Don't let anyone rush you or tell you you're living your life wrong.
sorry for the other post. It was idiotic. I hope this helps.
-francios