Is it normal to feel like i unintentionally creep people out?

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I'm the quiet kid so naturally people must think I'm weird. My only friends are people from the internet so of course I'm weird. However, ever since I've moved to college, I've been kind of forced to be a little more social. Lately, I've been a little more insecure about people's thoughts, specifically I've been insecure about how I'm generally perceived. This led me into thinking that I'm generally perceived as creepy.

First off, I don't act normal because I avoid eye contact with people even if I'm talking with them. I do this because I don't feel comfortable looking into sometimes eyes for a long period of time, especially if I try to mask an emotion.

Secondly, I sometimes follow people unintentionally! I swear I don't do it on purpose but sometimes the person walking in front of me just so happens to be going to the same place I am! I don't know if they notice that I was right behind them on the way there but I try to avoid them at least a little while after that.

Third, I don't look the best and I don't know if my smile is creepy. I don't get as much sleep as everyone else so I usually have bags under my eyes and I don't take that good care of myself so I have some acme on my face despite being 19. I don't know if my fake smile is creepy either because I don't know what exactly makes a smile creepy or not.

So yeah, I'm starting to think that I've been unintentionally creepy my whole life and I just didn't know it. I even read an article about this topic: https://www.inc.com/bill-murphy-jr/10-things-extremely-creepy-people-do-usually-without-realizing.html

Reading this article has conceived me even more, there could be a strong argument made that I have a odd smile, I sometimes laugh nervously at inappropriate times, I might show too little emotion irl, I might show too much emotion over the internet, and I might be too friendly.

I will never know if what I'm saying is true, but is it normal to think this way? Is the fact that I'm even concerned in the first place make me creepy by default? Have a mentioned something in this wall of text that's definitely creepy? Is the fact that I do unintentionally creepy things make me dangerous because it's entirety unconscious, thus I should put an end to my life before anyone gets hurt?

I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.

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  • Wryladradofft
    3 years ago

    Don't worry about it. All of your behaviour sounds like normal socially awkward person behaviour, and some of it isn't that hard to improve on (eye contact and nervous laughing especially, just be aware of your habits and make sure you don't feed into them). And regardless, most people won't judge you as harshly for these things as you probably think

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    • litelander8
      3 years ago

      I agree. OP is overthinking and should just be themselves.

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  • bbrown95
    3 years ago

    I honestly think you just really lack confidence and are overthinking things. I also had really low confidence and was convinced people thought I was weird/creepy/annoying/etc. when I was around your age. I couldn't hold eye contact, either.

    What helped me was actually to get out and socialize more, believe it or not. It was painfully hard at first and it took awhile to where I began to feel comfortable, but now I can hold eye contact and carry a conversation. It just took time and practice.

    I think the following thing is just you happening to be heading to the same place as someone else, which is 100% normal and happens all the time, especially in college when you are heading to class.

    The fact that you're concerned in the first place is just your lack of confidence and insecurity, which is very normal for a 19-year-old IMO. As teenagers and even in our 20's, it's easy for people to overthink their flaws (or what they perceive as flaws) and wonder if something is wrong with them.

    I wouldn't worry too much, I think a lot of people struggle with social anxiety and a lack of confidence, and I think you will get better about all of this with time.

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  • [Old Memory]
    3 years ago

    "Reading this article has conceived me even more" I love it, it makes no sense, but a lot of sense at the same time

    Recognition is the first step. The next is making assessments, then integrating whatever you think you should. Some people do this subconsciously, like with fads or if they come across an ideology, but you can also do it consciously, which it seems like you're discovering how to do

    You gotta be good with yourself first though. You gotta be smart and ready for things that can happen. A classic example would be a fresh recruit freezing when looking at the enemy. To put it bluntly, you've been shot a few times by what you've written

    Study a little psychology, check out Abraham Maslow, Carl Jung, Frederick Nietzsche, Alan Watts; look into self actualization, all the various cognitive developments (there's social, sexual, moral et all)

    It'll take time but you can take control

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    I you should try to get some counseling.

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