Is it normal to feel like an outsider in your own home?

I started feeling like that after i found my love. I dont know wats wrong :\

I don't know if it is normal, but I'm sure it is quite common. I'm feeling exactly the same, more so the last couple of years.

For the most part I feel alone all the time, but when I'm with my family I feel it even more so. I grew up in a Scottish family and while basically everyone in my family enjoys their drink, I don't drink at all. As a result I just feel like an alien at times and feel as though I've never really bonded with anyone to any great degree. My relationship with my mom and dad is great, they are really the only people I've got in my life, and really the only reason I continue to live in the city I do as I've long wanted to leave. When it comes to my sister and my other family members I feel as though there is no real connection there whatsoever. I find I just can't relate to her or my cousins. We're all in our early 20's and as would be expected, they like to go out and party. Early on, when they first started going out together on the weekends, they never ever invited me. One of our oldest cousins has his own place and my sis and our other cousin are often up there. I've never once been to his house, never been invited at all. I've tried numerous times to make an effort to some how hang out with them, but they are only interested in socialising in a pub setting with a beer in their hand. I have nothing against drinking, just personally it is something I don't want to do. I'd be willing to go out to a pub once and a while, but even when I have, I'm totally excluded from the conversation. I don't find the things they laugh at funny, and they all have their own little inside jokes. Our interests are entirely different, and when I do try and make conversation I often feel they can't be bothered listening. I just leave at the end of it all feeling so frustrated and down. We have a cousin visiting that we had never met until this summer. He has gotten on great with everyone and has fit right in with the family, especially my sis and our other cousin. I ultimately feel as though I'm no longer a brother to my sister, and that I'm some foreign family member. When I don't see my cousins, I'm okay, but as soon as we all get together for a family meal or something, I truly realise where I stand. I feel like me choosing not to drink and the fact that I'm shy and have social anxiety to a degree, really defines me, at least in their eyes. I'm not sure I'll ever be close with my sister again, or any of my cousins for that matter. I could go on and on, but I suppose what I'm saying is I'm an outsider, and while it may not be something that is at all pleasant, it is definitly more common than one might think.

Not normal to feel alienated amongst your own fam. Though I feel you. The sports thing just ain't me either. Never was, and whenever I sat down to watch with them I was only trying to fit in. I mean, Ocho Sinco Barry bonds Peyton Manning never payed my rent! And even if I went on my efin knees begging none of them would! So I'm not a sports fan. Ima fan of me. It sound like you're just different. Which is not a bad thing. It actually makes you very unique & it makes you stand out. When you're gifted you're different. That's a blessing..keep your head up & its also a sign of a leader!

Not normal to feel alienated amongst your own fam. Though I feel you. The sports thing just ain't me either. Never was, and whenever I sat down to watch with them I was only trying to fit in. I mean, Ocho Sinco Barry bonds Peyton Manning never payed my rent! And even if I went on my efin knees begging none of them would! So I'm not a sports fan. Ima fan of me. It sound like you're justt different. Which is not a bad thing. It actually makesx you very unique & it makes you stand out. When you're gifted you're different. That's a blessing..keep your head up & its also a sign of a leader!

Yeah. I think it's normal. I'm a lot like you, except my own family is not composed of sport buffs. I'd probably go even more bonkers around them if they were.

I am sooooo completely opposite my family. They all LOVE seafood and I am allergic to it. They hate veggies and eat meat, the exact opposite with me. They have bad teeth and dental problems, probably because they all LOVE sweets, and I am the opposite and dont really like sugary foods.

There is a reason for family reunions. it's because eventually members of the family just fall off the grid, probably because they feel the same way that you are now, and that they have nothing in common with their relatives. it's totally normal and i feel the same way

If you are the adult I feel sorry for you. If you are a young aduld just look forward to
moving out.

It's completely and utterly normal. Blood relations don't affect what you like and dislike. If you really feel like you don't belong you can always "create your own family". While they will never take the place of your actual family, they can serve the same functions.

It's not normal!! You and your family should sit down and discuss this and maybe you all can find things you have in common so you will have things to share! You ALL should try to be a part of their lives just as they should try to be a part of yours!! If you never find any common ground and nothing to relate to then you will regret it when they are gone!!!! Your home should feel like a home and if it doesn't you should talk to each other and try to resolve this!

Not everyone gets along in there families. I spend a majority of my time alone or with my mom since I have no friends here. But I feel completely alien to my dad, and try not to be alone with him, it just makes me feel uncomfortable like I am with some stranger.

This is completely normal.
I don't relate to my family either at all. In fact, I spend a majority of my time working on my own projects and focusing on my own life.

The fact is, a family will always be a family by blood. But a family is composed of very different individuals with varying interests.

And if they want to be carbon copies of one another? Good for them. Whatever makes them happy.

Don't sweat the fact that you are unique.
Embrace it. :)

Cheri
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