IIN to feel life is over before it began

This website is not a good place to seek advise for such matters. Its frequented by trolls and mostly all youll get here is mean, nasty and cocky comments which may erode your esteem, trust, view of life even more if youre very sensitive.

Try to reflect about why you feel how you do. Nothing exists in a vacuuum. But do this with gentleness and compassion. Treat yourself like a small wounded animal that you need to nurse back to health. What you said about "life is already over before it began" is actually very wise. Buddhists teach this very concept. However, its not this that causes the suffering. Its the wanting it to be another way. Its the clinging. The aversion and resistance to what is and what always has been. If you can accept what is, accept the true nature of reality, you will begin to live life more fully. The trick is to die before you die! Mental states are self perpetuating and can be either negative or positive. Its the nature of conditionality. What we cultivate will grow. So try be aware when youre beginning to get sucked down into that negative cycle. Do things to pull yourself out. Go for a walk, a swim, commune with nature. There are many things.

Many people go through life in a very delusional way. Caught up in petty and trivial matters and dramas. Unable to face their impending death because they are afraid or they dont think it will ever happen to them. They spend their days building a false image of themselves which they present to the world. A facade. Look at me Im a doctor, Im important. Look at me Im famous, Im so popular. Look at me Im a politician, Im so powerful etc etc. They cannot face the fact that in a very short space of time they will be dust. Forgotten forever. Their egos wont allow them to face this reality. Its not to say there is anything wrong with these roles. We need people like doctors and politicians. But when we dont realise that thats all it is, a role, then we create problems.

Life has ups and downs, troughs and peaks, ebbs and flows. When youre on a peak prepare for a downturn. When youre in the drought know that soon the flood will arrive. Ride lightly in the saddle. Its very difficult sometimes and moreso when youre young and inexperienced but keep going. Know that your happiness is not out there in anyone or anything. Its within you.

Try to not get sucked in to the toxic culture we have been indoctrinated into since birth. See it for what it is. Just do what you have to do to get by in life and keep focusing on the positive. Avoid negative people. Youre better off alone than spending time with people who will drag you down. Find people to lift you up and inspire you. They are far and few between but they are out there. Help others and be kind. Thats whats most important. Make sure to take time regularly to sit in nature. It will refresh and revive you. Go to the beach or the forest. Look at the stars. Remember we are part of this earth. Not separate from it.