Is it normal to feel left out by my boyfriend and his sister?

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My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for about 1.5 years.My boyfriend doesn't like going out much. But out of the few times that we do, his sister has also tagged along a couple of times. And when we do, my boyfriend and his sister just seem to leave me out of conversations, selfies, crack jokes only they understand the context of...
I just feel really left out and somewhat hurt. I refused to go to an event with the two of them, because I knew I was going to let that happen to me again if I went... so he got a little upset because he only saw how much effort his sister put into getting tickets for the three of us...

I don't think this is something I want to tell him straight up, because the same goes with his Mom around us. Is it even normal to feel this way? He's a brilliant man and spends an hour or so everyday with me... but he's so attached to his family that he takes out special time even on weekends for them inspite of LIVING WITH HIS FAMILY.
I don't know ,
I'm just feeling really left out from our relationship all the time as though I've always been there for him, not that it's been just a year together and that we should be making memories for ourselves...

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  • Pseodonihm
    6 years ago

    At first blush you are coming of as a self absorbed high maintenance teenage girl who probably doesn't have any siblings. If I'm wrong here, than I apologize.

    If you feel left out when you are around his family then here is a suggestion. If you don't want to be left out get involved. Get to know his family. Hang out with them even when he is not around. He obviously has a strong connection to his family and the only way to mitigate your feelings is to become part of his family.

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    • anormalperson
      6 years ago

      pretty logical yeah

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    he is simply the wrong type for you, how did this brilliant guy even become your boyfriend? cant you tell you dont enjoy being with him?

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago

    I agree. Get yourself involved. I've always gotten along very well with my hot older sister, and, we do share many things. Have dated women who were intimidated by that, and said things like "She's so hot..I can't compete with her", and "Wish I got along with my sister/brother like you do with her..You guys are something". Only one really confronted me about it, on the way back from a family function. It was a hot day and older sister did wear sexy, short shorts and a tight, low-cut tank top, and was in a fun, touchy-feely mood, so sometimes was very hands-on with me, causing a few looks.

    About 10 minutes into the ride home, woman I was dating mentions my hot sister's mode of attire. "Boy, she was popping out all over, wasn't she? You didn't seem to mind" a bit accusational. Told her my sister likes being comfy at home, and is just the hands-on type, brushing it off. Then she hits me with "I'm left out when SHE'S around..Like she turns you on more than I do..It's like she likes stealing you from me and wants you for herself".

    I tried easing the situation, but the woman continued, asking if I'd had sex with her, we can break up b/c she's obviously better..Much as I tried, she wasn't convinced that this is just how we get along, and, that's not going to change. In fact, as Summer is the busy season for gatherings, and she/sister does like to be comfy and show her body..Get used to seeing her and how we joke around, or, be gone. Basically, get yourself involved, or be number 2.

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  • rsbsuanzn
    6 years ago

    why does his sis have to tag along??

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