Is it normal to feel intense regret?

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I knew a girl for a long time in school. We are talking about 10 years here. We were great friends and were always around each other. I always tried to ask her out when I hit my teens but I could never find the right moment, or way to say it. I didn't want to face the possibility of ruining our friendship if she said no.

Never the less, we talked regularly, she would constantly drop of what I now know were hints but for some reason I just never picked up on them. I eventually managed to bring up the subject cowardly over a text, which ended up going to my sister (they share the same name) and completely shattered my confidence.

A new year in school and we get put in separate classes. And that is it. We stopped talking. We only talked few times after I tried to initiate conversation for years, and it was only really small talk. I assume she gave up on me, and who can blame her?

But ever since then I've felt intense .. I suppose regret. For years and years I've put up with a feeling of what could of been if I had just grown a pair of balls and asked. She was the only girl I have ever had a strong connection with before and why we both just stopped talking to each other is a mystery to me. Don't tell me 'I'm young, there will be others'. this happened almost 5 years ago. Tell me, is this normal?

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  • TheIntellect
    13 years ago

    It sounds like you're at the end of your rope so you have to listen to me. Wherever you are, wherever she is, you have to phone her up and meet up with her for coffee. The next thing you do is spill your guts, everything you've ever felt for her and what you wish could've happened etc. If she accepts a further relationship then your regret is no more and if she rejects you, you know it's not meant to be and you can move on with your life. If you don't do this you're going to be stuck in the same spot you're currently in.

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    • fluffyluv
      11 years ago

      This guy is completely correct. Do this or the regret will just get worse

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  • loveslife25
    12 years ago

    Couldn't say it any better than the comment above make a once and final full blown move,no more regrets for you if she is interested you move on with her if shes not you move on without her but whatever the result it's a move that will will get you out of this limbo situation! (talking from experience I was once in your place for 3years until I did the above)...Anyway I hope you do go for it!Good luck xx

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