He did told me the singer was bad, saying that I sing better is putting me at the level of this singer (the ones that cant sing). I am ashamed because now I think that I used to annoyed him but he never said anything until now indirectly.
He isn't putting you at the same level though, he's saying you are better. I really don't get it :/ Most boyfriends would enjoy their girlfriend's singing, and I think yours did too.
Just to put the facts out there, when someone says you sing better than anyone, it means exactly that, its a compliment and that you aren't on the level of that singer. On the contrary, you wouldn't have wanted him to actually say that you sung worse than that bad singer right? That would be an insult. The only way you can take offense to this compliment of all things is that you don't like being compared at all to a bad singer but that too is silly because he said you were better. Its not good to be illogically sensitive, especially when he is giving you good words. You don't want to push anyone away like that and if he says you were better then that is what he meant.
Maybe comparing you to the "bad" singer wasn't the best thing to do.
But I think he was just trying to make you feel better as you seem to be self conscious about him being the better singer.
If your boyfriend really was annoyed by your singing, I don't think he would have put up with it for four years. I bet that he's really frustrated and upset that you made such a big deal about such a little comment after you've been together for this long.
Well the singer on TV was likely part of a joke. "You sing better than someone who is so bad that it's being used as a punchline" is not really a compliment at all.
Just like if you were watching Biggest Loser, it's probably not a good idea to say, "See? At least you aren't THAT fat!"
IIN to feel hurt and not wanting to sing again in front of boyfriend?
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He did told me the singer was bad, saying that I sing better is putting me at the level of this singer (the ones that cant sing). I am ashamed because now I think that I used to annoyed him but he never said anything until now indirectly.
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He isn't putting you at the same level though, he's saying you are better. I really don't get it :/ Most boyfriends would enjoy their girlfriend's singing, and I think yours did too.
Just to put the facts out there, when someone says you sing better than anyone, it means exactly that, its a compliment and that you aren't on the level of that singer. On the contrary, you wouldn't have wanted him to actually say that you sung worse than that bad singer right? That would be an insult. The only way you can take offense to this compliment of all things is that you don't like being compared at all to a bad singer but that too is silly because he said you were better. Its not good to be illogically sensitive, especially when he is giving you good words. You don't want to push anyone away like that and if he says you were better then that is what he meant.
Maybe comparing you to the "bad" singer wasn't the best thing to do.
But I think he was just trying to make you feel better as you seem to be self conscious about him being the better singer.
If your boyfriend really was annoyed by your singing, I don't think he would have put up with it for four years. I bet that he's really frustrated and upset that you made such a big deal about such a little comment after you've been together for this long.
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"He did told me the singer was bad, saying that I sing better is putting me at the level of this singer (the ones that cant sing)"
How does saying you are BETTER then someone is putting you on the SAME level?
Doesn't make any fucking sense!
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Well the singer on TV was likely part of a joke. "You sing better than someone who is so bad that it's being used as a punchline" is not really a compliment at all.
Just like if you were watching Biggest Loser, it's probably not a good idea to say, "See? At least you aren't THAT fat!"
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No. Because he didn't say it like that, he said "you sing better than him" and not "atleast you are not THAT bad!" There is a diffrence.