Is it normal to feel extremely depressed in spite of going to therapy?

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I don't know where to start because I feel so helpless right now. I am a 20 year old guy who has thoughts of never being happy again. I'm convinced that I will always have feelings of worthlessness and helplessness like I have experienced in my life, but I also know that somehow, it's possible to live a happy life. Every day I carry extreme feelings of guilt and confusion. I don't know why I can't keep friends. I put on a happy face so I don't think that's the reason...
I'm gay, closeted except to my parents and a few friends.
I've never been in a relationship but am only attracted to straight guys who I know I obviously can't get
Anyway, I've been to three different therapists and I have been dissatisfied with all of them. The first two "couldn't figure me out" and the one I'm currently with I don't feel like he understand me. Help! can anyone relate??

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  • Moonbow
    10 years ago | pl

    Obviously, therapy isn't what you need. I've heard of people being cured of depression by taking long walks in the woods. Try it. It will probably be more "therapeutic" and won't cost anything!

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    • wonderwhy
      9 years ago | pl

      If people are cured by long walks in the woods, they didn't have depression lol. I take long walks all the time in secluded places and it doesn't help.

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    • LifeIsStrife
      10 years ago | pl

      Yes, that actually works very well. How beautiful nature is is oftentimes the empowerment that you need.

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  • CRuNKShaNK
    9 years ago | pl

    Therapy is so god damn useless. For 400 hundred bucks and hour you can get liquor and a hooker. Christ's sake kiddo you've got it all wrong!

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  • LifeIsStrife
    10 years ago | pl

    Why would you waste money on therapy? If you want a reason to live find one for yourself. No one can give you a reason.

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  • kittykat9930
    10 years ago | pl

    Well I'd be your friend :) But yeah, therapy didn't help me either when I was depressed. I kept self harming myself and feeling worthless but I just try to be around positive people who can help me with my problems. But I guess telling you that won't really help :( I'd help you out if I could though

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  • Belly_Cameron
    10 years ago | pl

    I hate being fat i go gym i suppose that is a kind of therapy?

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago | pl

    I think it all depends on you. Going to therapy is not necessarily the answer you have to want to change as well.

    Of course it's easy for me to say because i have never felt so low.

    Maybe letting more people know you are gay will help also.

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago | pl

    Yea I was going to therapy at 19 but not the same reasons. It did help, I had ended up hating people/avoiding contact with people so much that I forgot in my earlier years that I loved being around people. My Dad knew this about me before even I did, and my therapist really helped me sort of nail that down where i was otherwise oblivious, and I like to think I'm pretty self-aware. They can help you to realize things you already know but have not acted on. They aren't essential to recovery but I hope your current one works out. And the thoughts and feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness are just a product of your situation, they aren't based on anything but fear. You can overcome it. I really have no doubt. I think you'll be okay. Good luck man.

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