Is it normal to feel done with your family?

Im so tired. Everything I have done at this point of my life I have done with my parents in mind. The college I went to, the fact that I chose to double major, deciding to go to dental school. These where all decisions made knowing that those choices would make my parents happy. Along the way though I think I've started resenting them. Beyond that it seems that nothing that I do compares to my brother who doesnt seem to care about what anyone else wants besides himself. He got an engineering degree and then made such a fuss that he did it because of my parents that at that point they let him go off and do whatever he wants. He lives at home, sucks up to my mom and for the most part he avoids my dad and is viewed as the golden child. I'm so tired. I'm at a loss for what to do, my parents woke me up this morning to let me know how selfish I am. My mom sometimes is the nicest lady but other times (recently more often than not) is so verbally abusive. Whenever I am proud of a certain accomplishment she compares it to the struggles she faced coming from a third world country to here. Which is ridiculous. I understand that they faced troubles along the way, but the fact is that she has an amazing life now but is always living in the past. I feel like nothing I do can compare in her eyes to all the sacrifices she made. I constantly feel like I have a huge weight on my chest. I tried telling my parents how I feel, hence the selfish conversation. I dont know what to do anymore. Is it even worth it