Is it normal to feel "dirty" after sex?

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I have had sex with one guy who I have known for a really long time, we dated on and off and I really care for him. But when I've had sex with him I always end up feeling used and dirty. I told my best friend and she said that maybe I was molested as a child but I have absolutely no recollection of that. I have very little sex drive because of this and dread sex. I fear that this will interfere with my ability to sustain a normal relationship/marriage in the future.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    Opposite of GreyWulfen. If you felt dirty, it was just bad sex. If you did it with a guy who treat you with absolute respect and made sure that you were comfortable and enjoying yourself you would have likely seen it as the loving experience sex has the potential to be. You just need to find a guy you not only "care" about, but love. A guy who loves you in return

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  • udolipixie
    10 years ago

    In my opinion it's normal considering gals get shamed for their sexuality and the slut double standard basically dictating that a gal's worth is based on how many sexual partners a gal has and that sex is something done to a gal not with a gal. So considering those norms you were used by having sex and your value is lowered so it's normal to feel dirty.

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  • StarTeddy
    10 years ago

    You probably have some hang-ups about sex that don't let you enjoy yourself properly--or maybe he was just really bad in bed.

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  • quentari
    10 years ago

    geeze everyone tells their friends "maybe you were molested and magically have 100% no recollection of it that's why your sex feelings are different to mine!"

    Normal. I'd guess you subconsciously felt pressured into it and/or weren't ready. Possibly the guy did something before/during/after that made you feel a bit used. Like my (now) fiance. He used to finish then go off and have a cigarette while I cleaned up. Made me feel used. I told him, and now we cuddle a bit and THEN he goes for a cigarette.

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    • Mountaingirl
      10 years ago

      I think it was that I felt a bit used which is odd since he was nothing but nice and considerate. It was some pressure too because everyone was expecting it to happen.

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      • quentari
        10 years ago

        Yeah that's possible too. You were pressured but by your friends or family rather than your actual BF

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  • GreyWulfen
    10 years ago

    If you don't feel dirty after sex, then it wasn't good sex. :P

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    The sustaining of a normal relationship shouldn't mean you having to surrender the pink in any uncomfortable way.

    Some people like the 'dirty' feeling. But, if you don't have the desire for him, why the hell are you doing it with him in the first place? Just get a friend.

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