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Ive always been alone. Im 18 and never have had a girlfriend, i dont have very many friends, and my family has never been close and honestly i dont really care for my parents much. They've never really loved me like they should and i just feel lonely. I cant even think of any good friends right now and i only text a 2 or 3 people a few times a week. I just feel lost and no one is ever going to find me, and I just dont know what to do.
i feel the same as you! and im in the exact situation!
i have gone to a pychiatrist before and i was diagnosed with anxiety and depression, but not that bad. you could try talking to one too, or read a couple self help books. it can help a little. what i learned from my 'shrink' is to just try to talk to people, like 'cool' said...even if you are uncomfortable just force through it and youll realise it isnt so bad. if you like movies, talk about movies...if you have hobbies find people that like them too and talk.
even though im far from being who i want to be, my journey started by just being more positive and not being so harsh on myself. basically learn to love yourself, or connect yourself to god more if you believe.
i have never had a boyfriend but i tell myself that there are all kinds of weirdos and everyone has someone...out of the billions on this earth youll find SOMEONE like you. its something that just happens...dont feel pressure just because people around you have gfs. and also like 'cool' says, have confidence. i know guys that when i first saw them i thought 'ew no way' but as soon as they opened their mouths and i saw their body language i got turned on right away. its all to do with confidence. your guy friends may be lying if they say a bunch of macho stuff like girls care about looks and the size of your dick (or whatever weird things guys say, they are just not true)
just dont put pressure on yourself, force yourself to do things that are scary and anxiety provocing, force some kind of activity, go out even if its just alone. i find that once i have a few good friends i can be myself around, it kind of breaks the ice and the self that yuou know to be cool and funny just comes shining through...it will happen with time.
plus your still a teen...it may seem like we HAVE to grow up now or were fucked up, but its not true...everyone has their own pace they go at. i grew up going to many different schools; in some nobody were virgins and everybody was popular but only because they forced themselves and acted fake. at other schools in smaller towns people were more honest and had calmer personalities and i know lots of guys that have neever had gfs and are ok with it. its ok, not everyone cares
oh and as far as parents, i also dont have a very good relationship with mine either...we never show emotions...its like they were ready to havea baby but not an adult (im 20) . you have to learn to find that support and love from somewhere else. even though you may be lacking in levels of parental love, youll survive. just think of like ghetto kids who get thrown out of the house at 14 or something. once your an adult you dont need that anymore...sure the thought of it is nice, but you cant dwell on it. find something else that fulfills you and makes you happy.
sorry this is so long btw!
Trust me you're not alone. I'm in the same boat as you. Lonely isn't it? I've never had a girlfriend either and my dad I'm sure favorites my brother. Being alone stinks I know but cheer up. You seem like a nice person to talk to and you're aware of your situation. Have you tried talking to people? I mean being social. If you think people don't want to talk to you then think again. Everyone feels lonely at some point in their life. Just talk to people. Start off by just casually starting conversations with your classmates. As for a girlfriend, well I'm sure that you will find one. Believe me when I say that there's a girl out their feeling the same way you are. If you want to make a connection with someone then try to talk to some girls. If you think that you're too ugly then imagine yourself as handsome. If you believe that your handsome then you'll have confidence. Confidence attracts women. Sorry for making this long but I can relate to how you're feeling and I just wanted to help. You'll be alright and I hope that your loneliness fades soon :)
It's pretty common don't worry. I've actually got a huge family , 12 kids , but I'm not really close to one. And when I feel like company or partying, can't find a friend , if I don't there's someone wanting to be and getting on my nerves .
I have a theory tho, if you want your life to come together , people wise , gf or bf wise or just for you, you gotta do what you like doing with your life. Do the things you like , go the places that interest you , b/c then your not only doing the right thing by yourself and enjoying your interests and life but when you least expect it because your just getting on with it , a gf or friend just pops up and , as it's probably at one of the things your doing , your probably gonna have stuff in common.
I felt lonely because I had a hard time making friends. Now, I do have friends, and though I'm an introvert, I try to spend time with them.
Talk to those two or three people you text. Make plans. If they can't come, oh well, maybe another time. Talk to them, show them you want to be friends. I'll admit that I do get lonely even if I am an introvert.
oh,im married, have a popular husband, have a big family, but i happen to feel that no matter what i palways isolate myself. im not depressed , i go shopping, rent a movie, see tv. but somehow i feel alone because i dont have a girlfriend to be with me. i dont want a guy, family .. its weird . so i totally get you . you gotta get out of your comfort zone. get a job or something . :0