Is it normal to feel bad about life and living after a pet passes?

I had to put my cat down today. I loved him. We were close and bonded. I feel his absence. I’m aware that life keeps going, and I feel funny about it because he’s gone.

Is It Normal?
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  • Totally normal.

    Take a week or two to morn, then get a new kitten and enjoy a new life!

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    • Although it varies from person to person I wouldn’t recommend a new animal so soon, if the kitten isn’t as friendly as the late cat or has some behavioural issues OP could come to resent them.

      Two weeks is also a very short mourning period, if a cat has followed them from room to room synched up to them for 12+ years OP won’t get over that loss in a fortnight. Processing the loss of an animal you shared a bond with can take a long time.

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      • I've clear memories of at least 4 dogs from my youth; and no one in our family mourned long about their deaths. We did hold a family funeral and buried them in the backyard.

        We also had rabbits, guinea pigs, rats, birds at one point, and an assortment of other pets at one time or another (except no cats and no skunks).

        Our family was also the place in town where people would bring injured animals and we would do our best to nurse them back to health (but, that did not always work). Our backyard had many buried animals in it. Note that we had a very large yard. While the house was small it was on 2 or 3 lots of land. We also had a large garden for food.

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        • When an animal is one of many I suppose that would soften the blow. It sounds like you were accustomed to animals dying whereas I get the impression this is OP’s first animal loss.

          As I said it varies between people but when you have a very close bond with a particular animal for many years, especially when they’re your only one, it can take a long time to heal.

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    • A week or two isn't normal lol more like 6+ months.

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss, it is never easy!

    Yes, it's normal to feel the way you do, and time is the thing that will help you adjust to your new normal.

    No matter what though, you'll always have your memories of him!

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  • Miss my brownie. 😭

    Normal.

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  • It will take some time, it’s horrible sending our critters to the rainbow bridge but we must remember - animals care more about how well they lived, than how long they lived.
    Putting them down when it’s their time to go is always kindness, you did the right thing by them.

    Sometimes, for silly reasons, ‘feeling better’ feels inappropriate after a loss, that we must grieve in a way that honors our lost, we become insecure over how to feel.
    The best way to honor a life is to keep living yours in the best way possible. Furry friends are irreplaceable, it sounds like you loved him, and I bet he knew you did too

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  • I'd say it normal. I was in recovery from alcoholism for four 4 years and relapsed when I had to surrender my dog. I was heart broken.

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  • Yeah pets are family members, it's very painful to lose them. My cat is getting old and I still remember it like yesterday meeting him for the first time when he was a tiny little kitten. It hurts to think about the fact that at his current age he could more easily get an illness and pass away and that he doesn't have that many years left, although he'll likely and hopefully live longer than an outdoors cat.

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  • The loss of a beloved animal can be heartbreaking, when my late Monty was put to sleep I felt his absence in every room. Giving your cat a dignified and peaceful end was your final act of kindness to him but regardless you are allowed to be upset. Remember there is no time limit on mourning. May he rest in peace.

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  • I'm sorry you had to put your cat down, that's always so hard. It was kind of you to put him down rather than let him suffer in hisremaining days. You obviously care about him, so even though it's hard and you'll miss him, try to remember that you gave this animal a great life. I hope things get easier

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  • Atleast its suffering is over :/

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  • Yeah it sucks losing pets. Just part of life.

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