"It's usually because..."? How often do you cut off people? Have you thought about your part in whatever is making them possessive and overly paranoid? Have you ever discussed this with them in a caring manner? Have you made them feel secure so that they don't have a reason to be possessive and overly paranoid? Think about it - why would you feel guilty about it if you did? Is it just a general fear of commitment or opening up on your part? Is it any part your responsibility or is it always 100% on the part of the other person and you were acting perfect the entire time? Is there something else to it that has nothing to do with the person who you used to like who somehow transformed into a rude prick or possessive and overly paranoid?
I'm not trying to pass judgement or seem like I feel one way or the other about it, I'm just anonymously playing devil's advocate. I hope you don't take my questions as something to get defensive about. They are not meant personally, just as things to think about, and if you know the answer to them right away and resolutely, then good. Otherwise, it's there for you to think about.
No people usually turn into pricks after awhile. I usually want to give them the benefit of a doubt but some people you cant help after awhile.
People become like this when they are on bottom and suddenly have someone pay attention to them. Which eventually goes to their head and become pricks.
Example "Shy quiet guy cant get a girlfriend" than gets one and is a prick to all his friends, his mates and treats every girl he meets like they belong in a trashcan. Unless of course they are dating them.
IIN to feel bad about cutting off people that were being jerks?
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"It's usually because..."? How often do you cut off people? Have you thought about your part in whatever is making them possessive and overly paranoid? Have you ever discussed this with them in a caring manner? Have you made them feel secure so that they don't have a reason to be possessive and overly paranoid? Think about it - why would you feel guilty about it if you did? Is it just a general fear of commitment or opening up on your part? Is it any part your responsibility or is it always 100% on the part of the other person and you were acting perfect the entire time? Is there something else to it that has nothing to do with the person who you used to like who somehow transformed into a rude prick or possessive and overly paranoid?
I'm not trying to pass judgement or seem like I feel one way or the other about it, I'm just anonymously playing devil's advocate. I hope you don't take my questions as something to get defensive about. They are not meant personally, just as things to think about, and if you know the answer to them right away and resolutely, then good. Otherwise, it's there for you to think about.
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No people usually turn into pricks after awhile. I usually want to give them the benefit of a doubt but some people you cant help after awhile.
People become like this when they are on bottom and suddenly have someone pay attention to them. Which eventually goes to their head and become pricks.
Example "Shy quiet guy cant get a girlfriend" than gets one and is a prick to all his friends, his mates and treats every girl he meets like they belong in a trashcan. Unless of course they are dating them.
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Okay totally agree here now. Your explanation and example really helped. In that case, cut away. Thank you for explaining and best of luck to you.