Is it normal to feel awkward when saying sweet things?

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I feel awkward/uncomfortable when I say sweet things to my boyfriend (or anyone now that I think about it). I rather not say these things out loud but I kinda feel like I have to because I'm guessing he wants to feel loved too. He doesn't seem to have a problem saying nice things to me but when he does I feel guilty for not saying nice things to him enough. I do appreciate and love him but I just feel like it makes me feel weak and corny. I can think of a lot of things I like about him and what makes him special but I rather not say them out loud. ugh he should just learn to read my mind instead so I don't have to say it out loud. is it normal to feel like this?

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  • suckonthis9
    12 years ago

    News Flash: Males are very poor at reading minds. Females are better at this. If you have trouble saying these things (understandable), then write them down and ask him to read it.

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  • Crudhouse
    12 years ago

    Really curious why everyone feels this way

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    Me too

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Men are supposed to give compliments, just say 'thank you' and give him a wee kiss on the cheek.

    Don't tell him wonderful things about himself or he will start to believe them and turn into an arrogant shit, maybe dumping you coz he thinks he deserves a top model.

    I don't believe in this insincere crap.
    Just say what you want, when you want - keep him guessing coz it will make you more intriguing :o)

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    • Jweezee
      12 years ago

      Heaven forbid she make him feel wanted.

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        Of course he's wanted .... she's giving him her time, isn't she?

        That should be enough for him - he should be grateful ;o)

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    • Elle93
      12 years ago

      That is soooo true! My friend dated this guy who is a 5 and shes atleast an 8. She's a good girl, is smart and pretty and fell in love with him because she said he was the typical nice guy. She treated him VERY well and he was sweet at first but then she started crying to me about how mean he was becoming. She would give him ALL her attention and compliments and affection and spend her money on him and then he started treating her like trash, going to bars and lieing to her while she would be at home waiting for "the love of her life" to come home.
      They've been together for almost a year and the other day she told me how they were taking a break because he told her that he "wanted to go out and experience the single life and he isnt sure if he wants to stay with her."
      This guy was a virgin who had never had a girl friend, had never even gotten a blowjob before her and now he thinks he can go out and get any girl he wants. It's going to be a rude awakening when he goes out in the dateing world and realizes what he can ACTUALLY get. I feel terrible for my bff :(

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      • Saycheese
        12 years ago

        My question is how old is/was this guy?

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        I've seen this oh so many times when the girl builds up a man's ego and heard some awful stories. One of my good friends actually attempted suicide after being treated so badly by a guy who was a 1 - if he was lucky!! She too was gorgeous.

        They don't need compliments. They should feel lucky that you spend your valuable time with them.

        Oh the mistakes young girls make :o((

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        • Charmo
          12 years ago

          Damn, that's sexist.

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    • MuteDefiler
      11 years ago

      People like you is why I hate a lot of women. God, if he's the right guy, he won't just turn arrogant. Women always have to put men under the same label, don't they. Every time I hear the saying: "men are all the same" I wanna hurt someone.

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  • Jweezee
    12 years ago

    Yeah, you're going to want to work on that. And i think you guessed right, he probably wants to feel loved too. It can be discouraging to feel you've invested time, energy, and your emotions in somebody, who for all you know, couldn't care less. He needs validation that he's appreciated in the relationship. Explain your reluctance and assure him he's the one for you.

    Here, say this:
    Look baby...you know i love you right? And..... you know i'm not to good at saying things like this...but i feel like i'm incomplete when we're apart....you give my life purpose. And it makes me physically ill to think we won't always be together. I'm sorry baby, just know that even though i may not express it as much as i should, you are my world and i love you.

    Or some shit like that

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  • rock-chick
    12 years ago

    its just the u are no biggie

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    • Charmo
      12 years ago

      What?

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