In today's society, this kind of household is rare because it's near impossible to maintain. I definitely see where you are coming from as I had a VERY similar situation when I was growing up before it all fell apart. And because of that experience and a few others, I strongly believe that a household operating in this way is not very good.
However don't feel ashamed. If everyone is happy then it's not a huge deal. and if it is bad then it isn't your fault and you shouldn't feel shame just for being a female. Media will have you believe that it's always the women that stay home while the dad works 24/7. There are TONS of stay at home dads out there while the woman works her ass off. In either case though, whether it's the mom or dad working or staying home, It's very difficult.
Today's successful, happy relationships and families split the work load 50-50. Both people work jobs, take care of the house, pay for living expenses, and help with the kids if there are any. I am a strong believer in this.
Don't worry that just because you are female or that this is how you brought up, that you are somehow at risk for a bad situation. not to say that yours is necessarily bad. But your future is what you make it. When you are given the opportunity, I'm sure you and your partner will design a happy, functional, fair household. You'll be alright :)
Is it normal to feel ashamed to be a female because of this?
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In today's society, this kind of household is rare because it's near impossible to maintain. I definitely see where you are coming from as I had a VERY similar situation when I was growing up before it all fell apart. And because of that experience and a few others, I strongly believe that a household operating in this way is not very good.
However don't feel ashamed. If everyone is happy then it's not a huge deal. and if it is bad then it isn't your fault and you shouldn't feel shame just for being a female. Media will have you believe that it's always the women that stay home while the dad works 24/7. There are TONS of stay at home dads out there while the woman works her ass off. In either case though, whether it's the mom or dad working or staying home, It's very difficult.
Today's successful, happy relationships and families split the work load 50-50. Both people work jobs, take care of the house, pay for living expenses, and help with the kids if there are any. I am a strong believer in this.
Don't worry that just because you are female or that this is how you brought up, that you are somehow at risk for a bad situation. not to say that yours is necessarily bad. But your future is what you make it. When you are given the opportunity, I'm sure you and your partner will design a happy, functional, fair household. You'll be alright :)