It's not that you are shallow, you just have some insecurities about what other people think. And so does almost everyone else. A wise man once said:
"It is only when he loses his fear of disapproval that a boy becomes a man. It is only when he loses his desire for approval that a man becomes free."
For me personally, there are plenty of women out there that I am sexually attracted to and would sleep with, but that I don't find attractive enough or interesting enough to date or be in a relationship with. This is totally fine. You can allow yourself to fully enjoy sleeping with women that you wouldn't date. Just don't make untrue promises to them about your intentions.
Imagine being in public with her and feeling totally good about yourself and what you are doing. Feel how freeing it would for other people to see you and for you to not have any thought whatsoever about what they are thinking about what you are doing. It might take some practice, but try to work on letting go of the emotional negativity that you feel when you think about people judging you for being with a woman that is supposedly less socially acceptable for you. Be free of it and you and her can enjoy each other as you wish. And you should know, there are a lot of men out there that are attracted to "fat" girls or older women or whatever and really like them. It's completely normal. Be yourself and do what you like.
I forgot to add that this girl has a horrible personality and lots of problems. If she were normal, it would also have made a significant difference. She behaves kind of like Jim Carey in The Cable Guy.
IIN to feel ashamed of sexual attraction towards a subpar-looking girl
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It's not that you are shallow, you just have some insecurities about what other people think. And so does almost everyone else. A wise man once said:
"It is only when he loses his fear of disapproval that a boy becomes a man. It is only when he loses his desire for approval that a man becomes free."
For me personally, there are plenty of women out there that I am sexually attracted to and would sleep with, but that I don't find attractive enough or interesting enough to date or be in a relationship with. This is totally fine. You can allow yourself to fully enjoy sleeping with women that you wouldn't date. Just don't make untrue promises to them about your intentions.
Imagine being in public with her and feeling totally good about yourself and what you are doing. Feel how freeing it would for other people to see you and for you to not have any thought whatsoever about what they are thinking about what you are doing. It might take some practice, but try to work on letting go of the emotional negativity that you feel when you think about people judging you for being with a woman that is supposedly less socially acceptable for you. Be free of it and you and her can enjoy each other as you wish. And you should know, there are a lot of men out there that are attracted to "fat" girls or older women or whatever and really like them. It's completely normal. Be yourself and do what you like.
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Wise words, thanks a lot!
I forgot to add that this girl has a horrible personality and lots of problems. If she were normal, it would also have made a significant difference. She behaves kind of like Jim Carey in The Cable Guy.