Another way of putting it, is that unconditional love is when you love the good qualities about someone so much that they outweigh the bad.
From my experience, I've been nothing but nice to everyone, and everyone has been nothing but nice to me. And I'll watch as my friends, who don't treat each other as well as they should, get in fights, pick on each other, screw each other over etc, but not give me the least bit of negativity.
I've never met someone in real life that wasn't worth my love.
But isn't the idea of good qualities outweighing the bad a condition? What if the bad qualities outweighed the good? What about a very extreme case of bad qualities outweighing the good?
For the record, I'm glad you've only ever had positive experiences with people. Part of that is no doubt how you are as a person. There are some extreme sides to humanity, though, and not everyone is someone you'd want babysitting your kids.
I was more just trying to put it into terms that show that they do love you for you, since you were under the impression that if someone loves you unconditionally, then they don't exactly love you for you.
If I ever experience a case where bad qualities outweigh the good, then I'll let you know, but I just don't see that happening. Everyone has good in them, you just have to know how to bring it out.
Yes, that was definitely my implication. But not that if someone loves you unconditionally they don't also love you for you, but more how would you know whether they love you for you or not? It's the same result either way.
I know if it's the same, it shouldn't matter. But if I'm loved by someone, I do like there to be a reason they love me. A condition. Something that makes me special or different.
Interesting, I can kind of see where you're coming from, but believe me, you're still special and unique in their eyes, and that's why they chose to love and spend time with you. I may love everyone unconditionally, but there's the few people I love more than others, and choose to spend time with and talk to more because of how much more special they are to me.
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Another way of putting it, is that unconditional love is when you love the good qualities about someone so much that they outweigh the bad.
From my experience, I've been nothing but nice to everyone, and everyone has been nothing but nice to me. And I'll watch as my friends, who don't treat each other as well as they should, get in fights, pick on each other, screw each other over etc, but not give me the least bit of negativity.
I've never met someone in real life that wasn't worth my love.
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But isn't the idea of good qualities outweighing the bad a condition? What if the bad qualities outweighed the good? What about a very extreme case of bad qualities outweighing the good?
For the record, I'm glad you've only ever had positive experiences with people. Part of that is no doubt how you are as a person. There are some extreme sides to humanity, though, and not everyone is someone you'd want babysitting your kids.
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I was more just trying to put it into terms that show that they do love you for you, since you were under the impression that if someone loves you unconditionally, then they don't exactly love you for you.
If I ever experience a case where bad qualities outweigh the good, then I'll let you know, but I just don't see that happening. Everyone has good in them, you just have to know how to bring it out.
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Yes, that was definitely my implication. But not that if someone loves you unconditionally they don't also love you for you, but more how would you know whether they love you for you or not? It's the same result either way.
I know if it's the same, it shouldn't matter. But if I'm loved by someone, I do like there to be a reason they love me. A condition. Something that makes me special or different.
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Interesting, I can kind of see where you're coming from, but believe me, you're still special and unique in their eyes, and that's why they chose to love and spend time with you. I may love everyone unconditionally, but there's the few people I love more than others, and choose to spend time with and talk to more because of how much more special they are to me.