Is it normal to feel angry after the death of a loved one?

When my grandma Evans died on September 28th, 2015 and ever since I've been angry at God for taking her away from me.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Yes, it's completely normal. Anger is part of the grieving process.

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  • SKDM007

    Condolences, but think that shes in a better place and return to earth soon (if you believe in reincarnation)

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth

    If you read the bible God is not the merciful all stars and rainbow kind of guy that churches portray. God wants you to fear him and obey him. He will destroy a whole city because he doesnt like what theyre doing. He will flood the entire earth because he doesnt like what theyre doing. He will have you sacrifice animals for him.

    I believe god or a god exists but I dont think hes a super nice guy. I try not to make him angry.

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    • Grunewald

      I'm so sorry for your loss. We live in a world where death is. God himself has had to deal with it and with us.

      God himself, in the Bible, is saddened and horrified by it again and again, even as he grapples with it and works with it. As per the flood reference above, in his sadness he promised never again too wipe out humanity with a flood. Using the death that was in the world was always bittersweet for God. The author of Life became incarnate and took death on himself so that we can join him in life and not have to die, and not be afraid of death or punishment, or need to sacrifice animals for our sins, or let death have the final word. The incarnate God even went through a significant bereavement during his short time as a human - the death of his friend Lazarus - and Scripture says that his reaction was anger and grief as well. It comforts me to know that even God is disgusted by death, and that he has not finished making an end to death as we know it yet. In the interim he at least stands there holding life out to us, out waiting for us to grab hold.

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  • Ellenna

    Completely normal, but there's not much point in being angry about it with a god who doesn't exist. This is why there are so many family fights after a death.

    Just be careful what you do with your anger: I suggest finding something physical to do, like running or swimming.

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  • Nikclaire

    It's not normal to remain angry for well over 3 years.

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  • CountessDouche

    I'm not religious myself, but if you do believe in god, i hope you believe in the version that would 100% understand your anger & confusion after such an awful loss. I like to believe that if there is a god, that they encourage questions & the expression of real emotions, including pure, unadulterated anger when life hands you things you can't possibly justify.

    It is 100% ok to be angry. I encourage it if it helps ypu process your grief. I'm sorry for what happened to you & i hope you find some peace.

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  • Meowypowers

    You shouldn't feel bad, god has embraced her. Her time in this plane had ended and she doesn't want you to feel sorrow.

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