Is it normal to feel abandoned, even after 11 years?

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My dad left me, my mum and younger brother when I was 8. He was abusive and an addict. I hate him. I feel like I should be happy that he didn't stay around. But even being 18 now I feel abandoned. It's effected me so much. I think that if I wasn't good enough for my dad, how can I be good enough for anyone else?
Things now in my family still aren't good. My mum and "dad" ( my mum remarried ) and two brothers seem like a team against me. I can't do anything right and I feel so alone. Maybe if I hadn't had the childhood I had, I could deal with this situation better. But I'm not sure. I have close friends and a boyfriend who wants to help me so bad. I feel selfish to know I have good people in my life but still be sad most of the time.
Is it normal to feel like this? Abandoned, depressed and alone.

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  • Hooviva
    12 years ago | pl

    He whispered 'madness' when a goat humped his leg, then again, 'madness'. People only love you because you're unselfish. I like you because religion says you must act like a goddess (be faithful), very well! If you feel so selfish, better you didn't spend time with anyone than you do hurt yourself by caring. Your problem is normal: if you care, you're going to get hurt. Try reading a book, or having a bath with fragrant herbs and relax, there's nothing to worry about.

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  • Dragonlady
    13 years ago | pl

    I think you should not take on the guilt and depression that your dad should be feeling. People are selfish. They will never change. You need to get on with your life and be a strong and unselfish person. You need to love yourself, so other people can too. That was his decision. Good or bad imagine what your mother must be going through. Help her , she needs you.

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  • simplyme1343
    13 years ago | pl

    Yes because you were abandoned! He's still your dad so there is a biological connection and I think maybe the abandonment feeling is strong because you're mad he left.

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