You found yourself in an extremely difficult position without the support of someone you had expected you could depend on. You were forced into something you didn't want to do by this person in what you consciously or subconsciously (and justly) judge to be a deep betrayal. Now that feeling of betrayal, coupled with the sense of loss that is native to your morality, has overwhelmed you with regret and sadness.
I can't tell you what will happen. Guilt may consume you, or you may allow time to give you relief and perspective. People often find themselves confronted by moral dilemmas and forced to choose solutions that looked bad and then seem worse with time.
I am pro-choice. And that's what it means--choice. It was wrong that you had to experience this situation without the support you needed. It is entirely possible that given the chance to think it over, clearly and without pressure, you would have decided upon the same action and terminated the pregnancy. But we don't know that. We only know what happened and how you feel right now.
Given your situation it is normal to feel loss. But let it go and give hope a chance. You appear intelligent and thoughtful. We all do things that we wish we could undo. It's what we do the next day that makes the difference and is the first step toward a recovery.
Is it normal to feel a loss after an abortion
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Set aside the moral questions...
You found yourself in an extremely difficult position without the support of someone you had expected you could depend on. You were forced into something you didn't want to do by this person in what you consciously or subconsciously (and justly) judge to be a deep betrayal. Now that feeling of betrayal, coupled with the sense of loss that is native to your morality, has overwhelmed you with regret and sadness.
I can't tell you what will happen. Guilt may consume you, or you may allow time to give you relief and perspective. People often find themselves confronted by moral dilemmas and forced to choose solutions that looked bad and then seem worse with time.
I am pro-choice. And that's what it means--choice. It was wrong that you had to experience this situation without the support you needed. It is entirely possible that given the chance to think it over, clearly and without pressure, you would have decided upon the same action and terminated the pregnancy. But we don't know that. We only know what happened and how you feel right now.
Given your situation it is normal to feel loss. But let it go and give hope a chance. You appear intelligent and thoughtful. We all do things that we wish we could undo. It's what we do the next day that makes the difference and is the first step toward a recovery.