This story does not sound uncommon. I feel like I don't have enough wisdom to tell you what course of action to take, but I'll share my similar story if that might help :)
Ok, so I'm an average 18 year old girl with an identical twin sister. During sophomore year in high school me and my sister didn't really have strong friends. But, I sat by this girl that seemed to laugh at all my jokes and really be interested in me. Before you know it me, my sister, and (lets call her Jen for the sake of the "J" name disguises) were inseparable. Some of my happiest, ROFL moments were with Jen and my sister. She was the first friend I opened up to about alot of things. I too remember writing "love" notes; She would rave about how she loved everything about me and how I was her "lesbian lover" and the sort. And I loved and craved the attention. I had never had anyone be that involved in me before, or want to. It only was until I started opening my eyes and seeing how utterly toxic our 3-some (for lack of a better term) had become. She manipulated me and my sister to fight for her affections and turned us against each other for a bit. All is well over a year later, me and my sister learned to value giving each other independence and Jen can't look either of us in the eye.
In relation to your story. 3-somes are almost always toxic in the end, the attention-division just does not work in my mind. Also, make sure these are TRUE friends. Don't like people just because they give you tons of attention. If all of this cautionary advice is turning you off, talk to them, or her about it. Don't be embarassed to admit you are longing for a romantic relationship and are getting confused by your relationships with either of them. Hope I wasn't just a bore! Good luck!
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This story does not sound uncommon. I feel like I don't have enough wisdom to tell you what course of action to take, but I'll share my similar story if that might help :)
Ok, so I'm an average 18 year old girl with an identical twin sister. During sophomore year in high school me and my sister didn't really have strong friends. But, I sat by this girl that seemed to laugh at all my jokes and really be interested in me. Before you know it me, my sister, and (lets call her Jen for the sake of the "J" name disguises) were inseparable. Some of my happiest, ROFL moments were with Jen and my sister. She was the first friend I opened up to about alot of things. I too remember writing "love" notes; She would rave about how she loved everything about me and how I was her "lesbian lover" and the sort. And I loved and craved the attention. I had never had anyone be that involved in me before, or want to. It only was until I started opening my eyes and seeing how utterly toxic our 3-some (for lack of a better term) had become. She manipulated me and my sister to fight for her affections and turned us against each other for a bit. All is well over a year later, me and my sister learned to value giving each other independence and Jen can't look either of us in the eye.
In relation to your story. 3-somes are almost always toxic in the end, the attention-division just does not work in my mind. Also, make sure these are TRUE friends. Don't like people just because they give you tons of attention. If all of this cautionary advice is turning you off, talk to them, or her about it. Don't be embarassed to admit you are longing for a romantic relationship and are getting confused by your relationships with either of them. Hope I wasn't just a bore! Good luck!