Is it normal to fall in love with your boyfriends best friend?

I've been dating my boyfriend for awhile, and it wasn't until the past couple years that his best friend started hanging out with us too. Over time we grew closer & I found myself being attracted to him both physically & emotionally. I know it's "wrong", but I can't stop thinking about him, and wondering. One time when we were drinkng he professed his love for me, but other than that nothing's ever happened. Just wondering if it's normal.

Is It Normal?
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  • Of course it's normal, your bf is prob a bit nerdy and has a cooler friend that likes you. If it's truly what you want, you can both ditch him and ride off into the sunset. But your current bf will end up hating both of you forever and be really hurt.

    And if his friend has any character, he won't ditch his friend for you. There's not really a right answer, but if this is going to eat away at you forever, perhaps you should try removing yourself from the situation and re-connecting with his friend in a year or so.

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  • Beware that the friend wont go for it because you dated/are dating his best friend. Beyond that, take it as slow as possible (with both of them....with the bf so he hits the brakes a bit, and with the new friend so that the adjustment isnt so sudden it scares him away). Be thoughtful, diligant, and think about whetehr or not your TRULY want and NEED this friend or whether it fits a type of boys you go after. Dont ruin a frienship over a "maybe". And if you are 15 or younger, you don't know nearly the shit you think you know yet. You just think you are one of the rare immortalized mature beings past her years. You are not. Do not ruin a pefectly functional healthy young man by killing his ego selfishly. Believe me, --- you can do that. So please dont.

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  • You should think about this first;

    Are you still in love with your boyfriend?
    Have you lost interest in him?
    Do you do anything special anymore?

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  • i think its ok as long as u aint sleepin wit both of em

    one time i dated a kid longer cuz i wanted to spend time wit his dad. not date his dad or like that but he wuz interesting wayyyyyy more interesting then the kid.

    he wuz just nice to me one time i met him n i wanted to talk to him n hang out wit him. oh n he wuz divorced so i aint no skank

    n nothin ever happened

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    • hey I shoul tell u that if u like
      him nd u know that he will love u more than ur bf than it's ok u can go on it may be jelouss of u nd ur bf love nd may come tu ur physical activitess nd live u !if u think he cant do this I am rigt than go on with him nd forget ur xboyfriend

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  • Bad idea, just dont act on it. You obv. need to reconsider your feelings for your boyfriend.

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