Is it normal to fall in love with your bestfriend

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Gosh ! this guy and i were bestfriends since we were kids, we happen to grow older together
he moved out of town and 2 years after i got so attached to him that i thought that i might have feelings for him but i just never shared it with someone nor thought about it that much
then we started hooking up and things started to change between us
its been a year now since we started all the hooking up thing but still no progress and nothing
i dont know what to do ! im afraid if i tell him it might risk out friendship and lose him at the same time i dont want to waste time and just wait for nothing you know

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  • visualkeirockstar
    11 years ago | pl

    Most people fall for their best friend

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  • bazwell
    13 years ago | pl

    With-holding the truth is only going to guarantee you more and more heartache over the situation. What you are experiencing is simple proof that for you, as far as this particular guy goes, the boundaries between "hook-ups" and purely platonic friendship are nonexistent. He is someone you are at least intimately and romantically interested in, so he is (no longer/not) a suitable candidate for hookups. I'd encourage you to reflect over this for sometime, decide whether or not you really want to risk the loss of the friendship by attempting to take the realtionship into an exclusive state. If you decide that it is what you want, then find the right time and place (NOT just before or after "hook-ups") and tell him about the feelings you've been having and how they've been affecting you. Let him know that you do not expect him to have the same feelings, but simply wanted to be upfront with him.

    If you decide however that losing the friendship is too high a price to pay, then try to decide on whether or not you want to continue "hooking up" and stick to your decision.

    best of luck!

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